blackenedESP Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Well for starters my girlfriend of 6 1/2+ years recently broke up with me out of the blue claiming we were in 2 different worlds and she needed alone time. This of course was news to me seeing how we haven't even fought in over a year, had our summer vacation planned, etc... She has always been playing games, cheating, and lying though so I can't say I'm all that surprised. Losing the girl you wanted to spend your life with can put you in a funk to say the least. But thinking about it, it's really not THAT bad. Well, not as bad as it has been before. Maybe I'm just used to it, as sad as that sounds. I was recently laid-off from my job for the 2nd time. Through no fault of my own; there just isn't enough work where my boss can afford to pay me everyday. I filed for unemployment but there's an issue going on with that so I'm probably not going to see any money from them for at least a month. ...And I'm 23 still living at home with no clue about my future. While I know there are many people out there with much worse conditions than mine, I just feel like I've hit rock bottom here. The only thing I have going for me is my mother keeping a roof over my head. So needless to say, I think I need to make some big changes in my life. Here's the "plan" that I've been trying to mold a bit more as of late. I want to get a new job, just anything right now to pay my car payments and save money. After I get a few thousand dollars, I want to move out of New Jersey (because it's so freaking expensive) and maybe split an apartment with someone so I can easily afford it. Get a new job for obvious reasons and I'll have that few thousand as safety incase I have trouble finding something right away. At this point, at least I'll be out on my own. The next step is the hard part. I don't really know what I want to do as far as a career, never did. I never said "i want to be a ________." when I was a kid. I think what is actually making it a bit harder for me to decide is the fact that I think I can do anything I put my mind to. Everything I do, I seem to do well. But on top of that, I'm a fairly shy person so I'm always thinking "well, what if this happens...". The closest thing I have right now is since I've gotten into cars the past year, I was looking into tech schools. I stumbled across this high performance course that Lincoln Tech offers, but they only offer it in 2 locations - Indianapolis and Nashville. So I figured I'd save up the money, move to Tennessee since it seems to be rather cheap down there, then work and go to school. But like I said, I just can't seem to decide that I'm gonna do this or that. It's always a question. Even getting a job right now, I second guess everything and shy away from it because I'll come up with some possible negative. As far as I can remember I've always been like this and the one time I said f*ck it and forced myself to do something, ended up being the past job I had for 1 1/2 years, which my boss absolutely loved me from day 1. I guess the basic message would just be to DO IT. I was just wondering if anybody has the same issues, how they delt with it, etc...
Ronni_W Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Have you Googled "how to choose a career" or some phrase like that? careerplanning.about.com seems to have some good articles. There are other info sites as well, but too monetized so I won't post the links. Also, could search "fear of making bad decisions" and "how to make good decisions". Sorry to hear of your break-up and loss of job. It sounds like you have a positive attitude, and your 'bigger picture' plan for moving forward also sounds as if you are on the right track. Best of luck.
Author blackenedESP Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 I've browsed a little bit, not too far in-depth though. I'll check some of those out now and see if I can find anything helpful. Thanks Ronni.
Peter_pan Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 if you find anything mate let me know. i am going to go to college to study architecture and i think that would be a fantastic career. and sorry to hear bout your ex. i guess you have been through the motions before but as i can imagine it probably only helps to a certain degree
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