sumdude Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 OK so I've been seeing this woman for about a week now. We met at a gig where my band played on my birthday. Partying and ended up making out all night. We've gotten together a few times over the week. She has a great personality and is a really good person. We have some chemistry. Thing is I'm not all that physically attracted to her, just a little. I thought her personality could trump that but now I'm not so sure. The other night we got very hot and heavy and I just couldn't seem to get there... I'm thinking I want to give it another shot but don't want to string her along either. I may have to have the dreaded "Maybe we're just meant to be friends." conversation. Is that the best way to handle it if no fireworks happen for me?
Touche Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I wouldn't. You don't really need to have that kind of talk after only a week. Just pull back and she'll get the message. Not every dating experience ends in fireworks...that's what dating is for to find out if you're compatible or not. When you're not, you're just not.
OpenBook Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I don't know if the shoe fits on the other foot, but for the most part, the guys I've been honest with when I stopped seeing them - "it's nothing you did wrong, I'm just not feeling it here" - took it well and appreciated the honesty. Most of them. (1 or 2 still got pissed, but that was just another no-go indicator for me anyway.) I would hope that women would appreciate the same honest response if it's not happening for the guy... of course, as long as it's delivered with a generous dash of kindness.
runner Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I wouldn't. You don't really need to have that kind of talk after only a week. Just pull back and she'll get the message. Not every dating experience ends in fireworks...that's what dating is for to find out if you're compatible or not. When you're not, you're just not. this sounds about right.
Touche Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 this sounds about right. Yeah, I mean as much as I can appreciate honesty, after only one week, I'd consider it kind of presumptuous if someone had that kind of "talk" with me.
Author sumdude Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Yeah, I mean as much as I can appreciate honesty, after only one week, I'd consider it kind of presumptuous if someone had that kind of "talk" with me. That's what I kinda figured.. she is someone i would like to have as a friend though. I'll just play it by ear. LOL dating again at 41.. what a trip.
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