amazed Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 There is a girl ive been attracted to for a long time but hadnt made any moves on out of fear of it backfiring, despite friends noticing that we are close. She lives about an hours drive away during university time but was down this weekend. We're all around our early 20s and were playing drinking games at a friends house. One of the rules was, if you got a certain card, you were allowed to set a 'dare' (yes i know, not exactly mature, but very amusing.. sometimes). A female friend of mine dared me and the girl i like to kiss.. and she kissed me. The girl who set the dare, had earlier in the day had warned me to stay away from her, for reasons which become apparant 2 paragraphs down, because of what shed told her in a girly chat. She said she couldnt tell me but "she likes me, but maybe i should stay away for a bit, for my own sake as she doesnt want me getting hurt". I just wanted to know what was going on. I dont really care if i got hurt a little, before things got too serious; or i did something id regret. However, later on in the night, slightly drunk and lieing on a bed, she was saying "i cant believe [] made us do that". I jokingly said "what is it that bad kissing me?", she did it again. Then stopped and said something was wrong. She told me that there had been another guy the week before who she had met and she was stuck between. Me; who she knows is a nice guy, but is one of her best friends and if it went wrong shes scared of losing me. Him; who might turn out to be a bit of a dick, but if he is, its no big loss. Later on she said maybe she wasnt that interested in him and she only knew him for a few days. She claimed that she knew i liked her and had done for a while. I jokingly said "well you're a bit full of yourself arent you?". She replied "so if i was waiting here for you to kiss me, would you?". So i did. We talked for hours after that, i ended up kissing her again a few times. Fell asleep together. Woke up and i walked her home.. now im in this position. She goes back to university in 3 hours. Im meeting her soon. Do i just play it cool? Attempt to 'make a move' just to see if she recipricates? I may also offer to visit her next week and she how she reacts. I feel like im skating on thin ice and dont want to do anything that could mess things up any more than they already are. It would be so much easier if she didnt live so far away just now.
Gold Pile Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Make the move! She told you her quandary and she wants you to "take" her. She basically indicated that she wants you (kissing)to give you the confidence to take her and keep her from chosing the other guy. If you don't move on her, you'll be rejecting her...equals a friend lost. Tell her how much you want the two of you to be more. But don't get too wordy.... say it just before you kiss her. Don't wait for another invitation...just do it.
Author amazed Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Well i actually wish i had recieved that before leaving. Mightve changed my actions a bit. She'd had an argument with her mum before leaving the house. I spent 3 hours with her just driving and wandering around town, then waiting on her bus. I wanted to kiss her like you said.. but wasnt sure what her reaction would be. Afterall we were a bit drunk last night. She knows i like her because i told her. She still seems to be keeping borders up, although maybe bringing them down a little bit. I want to go up to hers for a night out. Not quite sure how to go about it though. As strange as it sounds, i dont want to seem desperate and put her off, which is how i fear i may appear if i chase her. I know there are plenty more fish in the sea. But this girl has a special something about her personality, which other people maybe dont notice, but i love.
AGBourne Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Make your move, man up or you are going to see her go to another guy. It is time to man up.
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