missinshadow Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I am trying to deal with the infidelity of my H for 7 months now. I have posted about that already. I know that my H is in the wrong but I feel that we can work things out if we can get back together. Many people have told me that I need to appear happy because sad is unattractive. I fully understand that. I was told "Fake it til I can make it". Fake my happiness. I have tried and it is the hardest thing to do. When I see him I get so sad b/c he isn't with me. The lonliness. Not having him to share how my day went etc.... I know he is mistrusting her and things are not well with them. So I am trying to be so patient. Someone please tell me how I can Fake this to get me through to see if we can do this again.
Tony T Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Once you learn to be good to YOURSELF by learning to forgive, you will have no problems with faking anything. However, learning to genuinely and instantly forgive may be the hardest thing you could ever learn. In no case be fake. People see through that all day!
PhoenixRise Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I am trying to deal with the infidelity of my H for 7 months now. I have posted about that already. I know that my H is in the wrong but I feel that we can work things out if we can get back together. Many people have told me that I need to appear happy because sad is unattractive. I fully understand that. I was told "Fake it til I can make it". Fake my happiness. I have tried and it is the hardest thing to do. When I see him I get so sad b/c he isn't with me. The lonliness. Not having him to share how my day went etc.... I know he is mistrusting her and things are not well with them. So I am trying to be so patient. Someone please tell me how I can Fake this to get me through to see if we can do this again. Don't fake it at all. Do things, go places, be around people that truly make you happy. Try not to focus on how things are gowing with the OW. Focus on your own life and your own happiness. I know from experience that the worst thing you can do is put off being happy until your marriage is restored. It just dosen't work that way. Good Luck
Mr. Lucky Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Fake my happiness. I have tried and it is the hardest thing to do. When I see him I get so sad b/c he isn't with me. The lonliness. Not having him to share how my day went etc.... I know he is mistrusting her and things are not well with them. So I am trying to be so patient. Someone please tell me how I can Fake this to get me through to see if we can do this again. What is the current state of your marriage? It sounds like you are separated - is he living with the OW? Is she married? What is your reason for wanting to stay in the marriage? Kids? We need more info... Mr. Lucky
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