cxz214 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Anyway to start this off I like this friend, but thats not really what I want to talk about. Lately she has been giving me the silent treatment. For instance I texted her asking what her nickname was which is jelly bean, but I asked if her name was bake bean (because of where we worked and only thing I could come up with lol). Anyway from the msg I got she didn't like the name too much. So later on that night we were both working and when I came in I called her that name. Well guess you had to be there, but the manager thought it was pretty funny, but she didn't. I didn't think she would take it that seriously. I found out maybe an hour later that shes not talking to me. Well that sucked since the only person to talk to was her. Well I would joke or atleast I thought I was joking around telling her to talk to me. She would give me a smile. I would say other things that would get her a giggle or more smiling. Now its time to leave work and she gives me a hug and says that she'll see me at school. I was like WTF? Then another day we were working and I have no idea what set her off, but I think it had something to do with comparing her with someone she doesn't like so much. She was doing the same thing that this other girl does that annoys me. She hugs me again at closing and says she'll talk to me later. I was texting her and I asked her about her and this other guy having something going on and they don't. Don't know how to put this, but I said something that would make me end up saying that I liked her. Well I decided not to text that to her, so I told her when she sees me I'll tell her. Well she then told me shes not talking to me. I was thinking what a bitch. Well that morning I text her saying good morning and she replies I'm not talking to you. Well about a week goes by and she msgs me on facebook saying if she should talk to me (I was think what kind of crap is that). I tell her I don't care and she gets all mad that I want talk to her. Then asks if I will talk to her. So my question is, was she trying to show power over me by not talking to me? Also think there is anything I should watch out for? Thanks
Green Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 how old are you guys sounds like teenagers? Seriously just start respecting her a little more and demanding some respect in return. Also be confident and just ask her to hang out and flirt with her and be fun and avoid calling her anoying nick names and comparing her to any one. Dude just kiss her or something already she may get mad at you but she'll say damn he has balls... most likely she'll love it and you can be like ineed more and you'll both make out. Good luck... whether shes at fault or not for the games you don't have to play them... but def sounds like you screwed up by making that other guy laugh when you called her the name ur suposed to make her laugh not people laugh at her... and avoid comparing her to anyone but maybe some one she aspires to be like
Author cxz214 Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Yeah I know I wasn't thinking when I said it. I was just joking around not meaning to hurt anyone. Oh yeah I'm 19 and shes 18. I don't ever have much time to see her because she is working all the damn time and if shes not working shes doing stuff for her classes or I'm working. I was thinking about asking if she wanted to see a movie Sun. when I get off work, but she will probably just see that as a friendly thing. Also I haven't had my phone for abit, so guess I'll see what shes up to atleast.
Green Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Yeah I know I wasn't thinking when I said it. I was just joking around not meaning to hurt anyone. Oh yeah I'm 19 and shes 18. I don't ever have much time to see her because she is working all the damn time and if shes not working shes doing stuff for her classes or I'm working. I was thinking about asking if she wanted to see a movie Sun. when I get off work, but she will probably just see that as a friendly thing. Also I haven't had my phone for abit, so guess I'll see what shes up to atleast. teenagers I knew it! dude it was a mistake anyone could have made point is u did hurt her feelings shes over it now though. Yeah invite her to the movies or anything else you thinks she'll find it hard to say no too like a concert or a resteraunt she likes.... now heres the key of why she won't see it as friendly some time before the date is over right at the end of the date if you've been a puss all night you have to kiss her... yes you have to atleast try to kiss her... tell her you want to tell her a secret get real close and just kiss her. Look man its the best way to find out if you guys have chemestry... it will make you look baller and confident and sht she may reject you but no guts no glory... if you're lucky you'll be making out... try the old I have to kiss you again ... now and that might start the make out session... so have you had many or any dating experience? you ever just kiss a girl on a date? well if u havnt nows ur time good luck
Author cxz214 Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Hey thanks again. Well we had to cancel because of the weather. It started sleeting and snowing pretty bad, so were gonna go on Wed. when we both have the day off. Yeah I have some dating experience, but I never know when the best time to go for it is. I've managed to make it happen and others not so much haha. Oh yeah be a good idea to pay? Also you were saying something about a concert? Well I've told her about one of my fav. bands coming to town soon, but she said she wasn't sure if she had the money. Also not sure how much she likes hardcore music, but she does listen to some I think. So should I invite and pay?
Green Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Paying will never be a bad idea if you act like its no big deal, like if she wants to pay just let her. Seriously I'm a cheap bastard and try to avoid paying at all costs and not paying has cost me dates in the past. Not paying is risky but omg is it satisfying not to pay and still get all the rewards... if you guys actualy became bf and gf then of course you'd have to treat her every once and a while but seriously I think it should be equal. If you don't want to pay try to take her to something cheap like a second run movie theatre lol that way it won't cost her much. The girl I'm currently dating I took to a dinner special so I wouldn't have to pay much she actualy later told me she wasn't sure if it was even a date haha. but shes my woman now. Look maybe a cool way to go about it is to ask her real casual do you wan't me to pay for you... don't read into if she says yes or no... just be like "hey do you want me to pay" if she says no act happy be like sweet maybe you could pay for me too... and if she says yes be like I dunno your going to have to buy desert Lol obviously say it in a realy joking fun way act happy your getting to pay for her... more important then all that paying stuff is GO for the kiss... Man I'll be looking foward to wednesday put an update up this really can't fail if she shows up and you try to kiss her on the lips don't wimp out
Author cxz214 Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Haha nice one. I forgot I have connections at the movies, so I can always get in for free lol. So yeah I'll try and give an update. Also what you think about the whole concert thing?
Green Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Concert is a great place to take a date, I'd say use your judgment of who pays for her ticket. But regaurdless its a great atmosphere listening to music you like relaxes you makes you confident, good oportunity to get close and touchy and just have a good time. heck you can meet girls at concerts! If you have hook ups at the movies then just take her there for free on wednesday and then get your damn kiss even if she turns her head or slaps you which I doubt if she goes on another date with you after trying to kiss her lips then your in... keep asking her out and setting more future dates don't let it stagnate... and KISS her and oh yeah shes prob going to make out with you... before you know it she'll be ur gf and you;ll be on here asking crazy sht like how do I ask her if its ok to take naked pics of her haha
Author cxz214 Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Haha yeah I've seen some of those posts. The only problem I have is I don't know if she likes me and if I try to kiss her when I meet her and she freaks out thats gonna be pretty awkward.
Green Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Haha yeah I've seen some of those posts. The only problem I have is I don't know if she likes me and if I try to kiss her when I meet her and she freaks out thats gonna be pretty awkward. don't just kiss her out of the blue, only kiss her out of the blue if u've been a wuss all night and your about to have to say good bye then just go ahead and kiss her before she goes. But if you can be smooth then try to be flirty and fun and touchy and if your all touchy and shes being touchy and u guys are wispering things to eachother during the movie and having a good time and you just go in and kiss her, heck even if shes mad it can be a cool moment where your like " I just had to i couldn't resist" look if you wuss out all night and don't build the momentum then when your saying goodbye say like come close I want to tell you a secret and then just kiss her. Seriously I've never been shot down for a kiss and then dumped... One girl wouldn't let me kiss her after 2 dates and I ended it with her but we still talk as friends I was going to invite her to a party I didn't end up throwing and she was going to come... my point is don't you know that advice people always give you "be yourself" well thats what you need to do, you need to be yourself... the confident version of yourself you know you want to kiss her and get physical... well this first kiss is the first step so just do it when you feel it and ignore the wuss inside you that says no its not right now or she looks upset or blah blah blah and if you are a wuss through the entire date which might happen the just do an awkward attempt at one before she leaves!
cxz215 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Haha ight man sounds like a plan. Well till then guess I'll enjoy my snow day.
Author cxz214 Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Haha ight man sounds like a plan. Well till then guess I'll enjoy my snow day. Hmmm...don't know how I loged into that one lol. Oh well same as the above msg.
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