Brady_to_Moss Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 wow. I cant believe it worked. My good friend from school who is a girl now wants me becasue i ignored her and treated her like ****. I use to have a real big thing for this girl last year. This year at school she turned into a total bitch to me and my friends and the other week i said look,the world doesnt revolve around you. It not about you 100% of the time. She would tell us to buy her things and drive her places and got mad when we had things to do like go to class and get an education. She once told me to skip class to take her tanning. I laughed right in her face. She got pissed but its the truth and no one i knew has ever told her that. After that we still talked and hung out but i barley payed attention to her and now i find out she wants me. Why oh why would a person like someone who treated them like ****??
socialight Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 congratulations! most guys don't figure this out until their 20's or 30's, some never!
Lovelybird Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 women want to be loved and respected and cherished. if you use tricks to treat her badly, one day a good man comes along, and treat her with love and respect, she will realize that, and leave you and a woman or girl is used to good treatment (or learned what is real love) will not buy those tricks In the end it comes down to your integrity and characters. would you play in order to get a girl even if that doesn't contribute to your characters? .
ruggy Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 women want to be loved and respected and cherished. if you use tricks to treat her badly, one day a good man comes along, and treat her with love and respect, she will realize that, and leave you and a woman or girl is used to good treatment (or learned what is real love) will not buy those tricks In the end it comes down to your integrity and characters. would you play in order to get a girl even if that doesn't contribute to your characters? . Doubtful. You do that to a woman now and you'll be her friend not boyfriend. Must be something in the water.
Lovelybird Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I get it now. boyfriend = bad manners, bad treatment, the worse the better the relationship based on trust, love and friendship is not popular anymore. people will do anything just fit selfishness I guess this is not the Bible time anymore, that man is the spiritual leader of the house, if a man leads in bad characters, what women should do? rebel cannot a man is consistant in his integrity??? by tricks you may play for a while, but long term if you want to have real love relationship, BE ONE who is consistant in his integrity and good characters you don't want to deteriorate yourself just become others do so
ruggy Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I get it now. boyfriend = bad manners, bad treatment, the worse the better the relationship based on trust, love and friendship is not popular anymore. people will do anything just fit selfishness I guess this is not the Bible time anymore, that man is the spiritual leader of the house, if a man leads in bad characters, what women should do? rebel cannot a man is consistant in his integrity??? by tricks you may play for a while, but long term if you want to have real love relationship, BE ONE who is consistant in his integrity and good characters you don't want to deteriorate yourself just become others do so Might of worked in the previous centuries, but not the 21st. I am waiting for the new women's training manual. I hear it had the up to date information men dating in the 21st century need to win them over. Anyone know the release date from Schuster & Schuster
chrislovestosurf Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Right, women are messed up. If they take an initial interest in you, then it is in your hands to either screw it up or play cat and mouse. The latter works best. By screwing it up, I mean that the guy basically is a complete pussy calling the girl constantly and acting desperate. There is nothing wrong with being obsessed with a lady, im guilty of that. However if you play it cool and lead her to believe that you have plenty of options (even if you dont) then she will be intrigued. you can love, respect, and cherish a girl but you have to get her in your grips before you can do that. God, dating is a sick game.
kashmir Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 You never treated her like crap. You just didn't put up with her BS. I'm guessing this girl is pretty hot, the superficial kind of hot (seeing as she goes tanning). She knows she's hot and expects guys to fall all over her and do her favors without getting anything back. You didn't do that. It threw her for a loop. The answer isn't to treat women like crap, but the answer also isn't to constantly do things for women just because they're women. Treating people with respect and kindness gets you a lot more than treating people like crap, but they need to EARN that respect and kindness.
Green Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 wow. I cant believe it worked. My good friend from school who is a girl now wants me becasue i ignored her and treated her like ****. I use to have a real big thing for this girl last year. This year at school she turned into a total bitch to me and my friends and the other week i said look,the world doesnt revolve around you. It not about you 100% of the time. She would tell us to buy her things and drive her places and got mad when we had things to do like go to class and get an education. She once told me to skip class to take her tanning. I laughed right in her face. She got pissed but its the truth and no one i knew has ever told her that. After that we still talked and hung out but i barley payed attention to her and now i find out she wants me. Why oh why would a person like someone who treated them like ****?? Seriously it doesn't even sound like you treated her like **** you just refused to put up with her sht... that probably made you seem confident and women are attracted to confidence. I mean if you are unconfident and unasertive and bend to the every whim of a women for no good reason and with out mutual respect of course they won't be attracted to you and think of you and use u like a doormat if you use tricks to treat her badly, one day a good man comes along, and treat her with love and respect, she will realize that, and leave you I believe the poster is confused why this girl likes him. She likes him because he refused to play her silly games and he should relize disrespecting women will not get him any where. If he wants to do well with women he should be a confident, honest, and kind mand who demands respect from a woman but always returns that respect. Right, women are messed up. If they take an initial interest in you, then it is in your hands to either screw it up or play cat and mouse. The latter works best. By screwing it up, I mean that the guy basically is a complete pussy calling the girl constantly and acting desperate. There is nothing wrong with being obsessed with a lady, im guilty of that. However if you play it cool and lead her to believe that you have plenty of options (even if you dont) then she will be intrigued. you can love, respect, and cherish a girl but you have to get her in your grips before you can do that. God, dating is a sick game. You should always respect yourself over any other person, and only show your respect to people who have earned it by not disrespecting you. If a woman wants to play games you don't have to pretend you have other options you litteraly do just leave her and spend you time on some one more deserving. No one said self respect is easy it can often times seem easier to just allow yourself to be disrespected at work, or in your relationships but if you demand respect you will get it You never treated her like crap. You just didn't put up with her BS. The answer isn't to treat women like crap, but the answer also isn't to constantly do things for women just because they're women. Treating people with respect and kindness gets you a lot more than treating people like crap, but they need to EARN that respect and kindness. and this is an analysis I can fully get behind. You treat a girl like crap as in tell her to f herself, not return calls when she was kind and respectful to you and unless she has some psychological condition it will only hurt your chances or eventualy end your relationship. The OP demanded respect and refused to give into a disrespectful person and now the girl has decided to respect him. The only way to truely be loved is to love some one not devalue them!
Dawn26 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Some women (or girls in your case) are masochists. They like to be disrespected and mistreated, in a sense I think some women consider this type of behavior foreplay.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Well, the girl you're referring to sounds like she has a Princess complex. As in - everybody should be bowing down before her and kissing her feet. You obviously are more of a challenge to her and that's something new and different. Of course you're going to be appealing! Honestly - I don't like being treated like crap by a guy. But I don't have a Princess complex, either. I do like being challenged by a guy, however. Meaning intellectually. It shows me that he expects more of me and treats me like I'm at least on his level. It's a compliment. I don't want a guy that bows down at my feet and bends to my will - yuck. I want a strong man that knows who he is and has his own brain (and set of balls). Maybe that's what she sees in you. In her case, I guess she has to be treated a little forcefully to get it.
colosseum Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 All great comments. For me, my ex actually made the light-bulb go on in my head. I told her that I thought it was the "girls like bad guys" thing. "I think it's the putting-girls-on-a-pedestal thing." Girls don't like disrespect (most of them anyway); they want guys with a spine and who can stand up for themselves. I myself am just coming to terms with this (in the dating/meeting women scheme; I have a spine and I can stand up for myself), and I have to tell you; it really works, whether one is acting confident or is confident: confidence is all it is. You never treated her like crap. You just didn't put up with her BS. Welcome to the real world of women my friend God, dating is a sick game. Amen, amen, amen. *sigh* Strange world, this...
Woggle Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Respect is the number one factor in a woman's attraction to a man and you made her respect you by not putting up with her crap. No man should abusea woman but if she is acting up have no problem telling her to knock it off. Many women do seem to love a man better when he abuses her and treats her like crap though. You have learned what most men don't learn until they are close to 40 so be proud of yourself.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Yea i really didnt treat her like crap now that i think of it. Just basically said how i feel in a serious way. But too bad becasue now she wont stop talking to me and she is a girl who has many problems. Shes not independednt and needs people to do everything for her and pay for everything. It amazes me how people like this get into relationships and have amazing physical relationships with people and i am sitting here with no one in site.
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