eske Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 its not been a month since my NC began with my Ex. It was her and mine first time and out breakup was very mutual and nothing bitter. Even though we r in NC i have nothing bitter or against her in any way.. all i am thinkin off is moving on.. i try to keep myself happy even though i am not very happy(because of financial reasons). i always put on a smile and try to think positive.. But!!!!!!! there r times when i miss her a lot.. specially just after i wake up everyday i remember her then at times when i am about to sleep then i remember her.. why is it so???? why do i remember her nearly every day at these times.. is it normal?? Apart from this i would be doing fine i.e. will try to keep myself busy and happy and smile and crack jokes around but all of a sudden from no where i will remember about her.. All i think about her is "what would she be doing at this time" though this feeling lasts for some 5 or 10 min but i get very sad and gloomy at this time.. and then again i persuade my mind to be ok and enjoy as much as possible.. Does this happen with every1??? I do not want this to continue for long as i dont like the feeling of missing her though the feeling is for 5-10 min it is so intense that it tears me up.. is this how every1 feels??? i need some kinda help i guess.. but i dunno wat 2 do... Can some1 tell me wat to do.. or if i am on the right track???? Thanks
nowhereman82 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 It's subsides but probably doesn't go away all the way. You think of dead relatives and good friends you haven't spoken to in a long time don't you? That's life
Author eske Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 It's subsides but probably doesn't go away all the way. You think of dead relatives and good friends you haven't spoken to in a long time don't you? That's life But will this feeling subside??? and i do think about relatives but thats just once a while right.. this happens daily.. :-(
nowhereman82 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 The point of reference is that you will always think of them.....at least once in a while, like you said. It's just right now that you think of them all the time. Keep yourself busy and eventually you will think of them and be like "wow....it finally happened, they aren't in my thoughts constantly, and this time thinking about them didn't hurt that much!"
Author eske Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 The point of reference is that you will always think of them.....at least once in a while, like you said. It's just right now that you think of them all the time. Keep yourself busy and eventually you will think of them and be like "wow....it finally happened, they aren't in my thoughts constantly, and this time thinking about them didn't hurt that much!" yeah i am trying very hard to think positive.. My ex got married a month back too and that kinda forced us to go NC(thats wat we think would be best for her, me and her husband too).. It hurts a lot because we kinda broke up not because we fell out of love or didnt like each other but for other reasons.. with her marriage being so fresh it pinches me a lot at times.. though we have been very understanding during this whole transition.. but it does hurt. I really am waiting for the day wen i can say WOW to myself.. i really am and i want the same to happen for her as well..
nowhereman82 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 She got married....it did happen for her. She's just not being honest or you are reading into and/or disillusioned by her actions. Sorry but its the truth. She met her man and moved on to a new life with them.
Author eske Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 She got married....it did happen for her. She's just not being honest or you are reading into and/or disillusioned by her actions. Sorry but its the truth. She met her man and moved on to a new life with them. i know we have to move on.. yeah she met her man. she was forced to meet her man. her parents wanted her to meet this man and not me. tats a diff. story all together.. i just pray tat it will get better with time and that this is normal behavior is normal for ppl undergoing any loss
EmperorR Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Been 6 months, and I still think about my ex every day but ts not like I get sad angry etc it's just oh, every day it's geting less and less I know one day I won't think about her again.
Author eske Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Been 6 months, and I still think about my ex every day but ts not like I get sad angry etc it's just oh, every day it's geting less and less I know one day I won't think about her again. Yeah correct. Wen i think about my ex i dont get angry or hatred or any such feeling. All i think is what would she be doing right now and stuff.. I dont even think about the good days we had together.. All i think is what would she be doing right now and would her husband be taking care of her properly and vice versa.. and yeah i too wanna think that this feeling will go away.. but there r lots of negative things happening around me at the moment and this is makin this whole thing kinda more difficult.. just hoping to do better with time.
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