nowhereman82 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 So, some of you might remember me, I haven't posted in awhile. Please read the end of my post if you are currently upset about your break up, I have some feedback/words for you. So short of it, we separated 3 weeks from our wedding, she left me for another man (it of course didn't work). 5 years together. I went through my hurt. So here I am 9 months later and I am transferring my job to another city (my home town) for advancement opportunities. I made sure not to move in the past because I was lonely or heart broken and waited until a point where I felt I was moving for good reasons. So I am moving next weekend and I am packing up this weekend to get a jump on things.....I didn't expect things to be so sad!! I'm leaving behind 5 years of history with a woman I wished to spend the rest of my life with. Our home (I kept the same apartment). I'm packing all of my stuff and finding things that remind me of us or things she missed when she moved out. I just needed a place to dump this because I wanted to reach out to her and tell her how sad I was. But I've learned better to not do that. So now for my words for those currently heart broken and thinking of their ex or wanting them back....It doesn't work, and everyone here will tell you that. I wanted my ex back and spoke to her all the time at first....finally I found someone that made me happy and helped me forget her and made me REALIZE i DESERVE to be loved better and that other people have the capacity to love me more than my ex did (not that my ex was a bad person, discounting what happened at the end). I then stopped speaking to her and reaching out. After awhile she kept trying to reach out and I told her I was no longer interested in reconciliation and I had moved on and to take care. She got more persistent. Eventually we agreed to meet and talk. She did the right thing, we had an open and honest frank talk about what happened, why it happened, and what we both been up to. She apologized and admitted that everything I told her was right. Honestly it was great to see and hear her again, she was so beautiful. She came over the next day, I went against my instinct and we had sex, boy it felt good, our bodies were still in tune, my lovers since her still haven't felt so great. We talked some more after that. After we had sex I realized that though I loved her, I did not feel that way about her anymore. But part of me wanted to hang oout and date and see if it came back. We went on a dinner date and I explained how I felt and what I needed. Short story, she cried, dinner was ruined, and we didn't speak after that. I got my closure, I got to **** her one last time, what more could I ask for? Moral of this, everything I read about ex's here when I had my problems was true. When you move on they will want to come back, when they do come back, you most likely find you don't want them anymore. You WILL find someone special for you again. I am glad for all of this. I know what I want more from women I date now. I've improved at dating, and I've had my mind expanded by these women and I've experienced things in the bedroom I never dreamed of with my ex. Missing my ex is just a sign....of nothing. She was my best friend and partner for 5 years, living together for 4 years. We had a great relationship during that time. I will always miss her and love her. But that's why we're human. So you're feelings will lower.....they won't be at the forefront of your mind....and when they do rear their ugly head...it won't hurt as much. I think of my ex daily due to one thing or another. But it doesn't hurt anymore. Except for today, today's different.... I wish you all luck on your journey
Scorpio13c Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 They always seem to come back/make contact when you least expect it. Good for you to realize this nowhereman82! Scorp
EmperorR Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Agree, I found someone so much better than my ex in all aspects it's like what I was thinking being treated like trash for 3 years, I could honestly care less if my ex ever ckntatcs me again it would be nice just to prove that I was right but shrugs. Good luck on your new exciting life man.
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