Dawn26 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 I met a wonderful, smart, funny, cute guy on Feb 8th 2009 online, so we started chatting online for a couple of days, everything was going smooth so far. (We met through an online service where people have profiles and pictures posted) He asked for my number... I was very hesitant to give it to him, so he gave me his instead. I didn't think I was going to call him or talk to him because I felt very insecure about the way we met, it just seemed weird! This was the first time I was talking to someone online that way. Eventually after 3 days of his persistence I caved n text him, so we started text messaging back and fourth. He called me and we began having phone conversations. It seemed that our text messaging conversations were more entertaining than our actual phone conversations. He invited me out for the valentines day weekend and I unfortunately couldnt make it because I had plans with my girlfriends. So I said we should reschedule and he continued text messaging me every morning and night. We arranged to meet in person last sunday at a restaurant/bar. We met had appetizers and drinks. The conversations felt akward because even though I knew what he looked like (because of the profile pictures) it's still not the same as meeting in person! I think we were both nervous and therefore react different to our nervousnes. He was a chatterbox and I could hardly get in there to say a word!! He is a very funny, charismatic guy, and I like him. The date ended he walked me to my car and we kissed and said goodbye. He called me twice that night to make sure I got home safely. Morning after that he text me his usual good morning and we text messaged as usual through out the day. In the evening that day he even commented something like "he was at sports authority buying gymshoes so he could have a hot bod like mine" and I thought it was the cutest statement ever!! (he's a bit chunky) We continued texting until Thursday of last week he said he was going to go play bags with coworkers and he would call me once he was out. Thursday ended and I never heard from him, so since I was used to him texting n calling everyday I was genuinely concerned for his well being! For a minute I stupidly assumed something tragic happened to him and that is why he was unable to contact me. So I text him friday morning "hey you, did you fall off the face of the earth =)-"and he replied "lol....no I just had a very late night last night" and he said he was sorry and that he was swamped at work. He had asked me to go to a concert with him this past friday, I said maybe because I had other plans, but I said maybe we could coordinate something. I was really looking forward to it! Through out friday I didn't hear anything from him, and I called him @ 7pm on Friday and he didnt answer. I didn't bother to leave a message, since I realized that was my cue for him cutting off things. I just don't understand how it went from everyday contact to nothing over night!! It's saturday now and I still haven't heard from him. I'm fighting with myself so I won't call him since he's obviously giving me the run around. I know we just met and it's silly for me to even feel anything, but I'm sooo depressed over this! If he wanted to end things why didnt he come out and just end it..why the sudden loss of contact? Any advice or thoughts would be highly appreciated.... P.s..about a week ago I deleted my online profile through the dating service I mentioned we met through because I was getting weird messages and don't have time to check it that often. He asked me about it and I just joked with him and told him it was there. I checked today and to my shock he deleted his profile too!!!!So confused....
darby1 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Who knows! It happens all the time! I never get it? I assume, okay he met someone else he likes more .. whatever. or worse.. was it something i said or is my ass too flabby?? Then I stop myself from this speculation. On to the next! It's not about what he wants in this stage, its about what you want. And you clearly don't want a man who plays games or isn't that into you. So drop him. Keep that seat available for the guy you want sitting in it. And keep moving on until you find him.. on to the next!
Author Dawn26 Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 That's very refreshing advice. Thanks!!
sid3 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Yeah who really knows why it happens. Like the other poster mentioned, maybe he met someone else while on the dating site and things panned out. Maybe he's got a gf or wife. There's a good chance he is playing the act like a jerk game......Only he really knows what his deal is. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out. There is a chance something came up, but there are very few excuses that can justify not picking up the phone.
zaphodb2002 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 It's only been a couple of days since you talked to him. He may be ignoring you, or he may have some pressing matter he has to attend to. Or maybe he lost his phone. Point is, one missed call doesn't necessarily mean he's dissing you. Course, he may be. Guys can often be dicks. But don't freak out so quickly. If he did find someone else and couldn't man up to tell you, he's a chump, and he's not worth your time.
Author Dawn26 Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Thank you all for your kind words. In the midst of all this my cell phone fell to the floor and shattered into a thousand pieces and now I am unable to see if he has called or text! The question is....should I call, facebook, or myspace him? He is oblivious of my cell misfortune, since the cell phone line is now on hold, everytime I receive a text msg the outgoing response reads "the recepient for this carrier is no longer receiving messages" what if he thinks I blocked him from my phone?
Krytie TV Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Actually, I don't really see what he did according to your story. If I understand correctly, he invited you to the concert and you waffled about having plans and kinda did a "plan jig". He probably took that as a sign that you weren't interested in going and was already there when you called. I may have this wrong, but it sounds like you are confusing him going out and doing what he had planned to do with not being there for you. He didn't answer because he was off to a concert?
Author Dawn26 Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Hmm.....you may have a point. The problem here is since we did not speak since wednesday I really don't know if he went to the concert or not. He had a chance to call back n he didnt. I guess I was a bit wishy washy with him...
motive2002 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Ahh... dating via electronic communication. So many pitfalls. This whole texting thing leaves a lot to the imagination, especially if the frequency of texts start to drop off, or you're having trouble with "what did he mean by that last text?" So much left open to interpretation. Your mind can easily try to fill in the blanks, and if you're a person that through time, trial and error naturally expects the worst case scenario, your imagination can run wild with every little word typed.. or every gap inbewteen texts. Don't even get me started on Facebook and MySpace. A lot of communication at the beginning of something new is exciting, but too much can feel a little suffocating. Don't read too much into how much or how little communication there is. Try not to let your imagination run wild with a billion different possibilities. Accept things for how they are, not how they might be. If he had a good time on your date and is looking forward to seeing you again, then just take that as it is. You don't have to analyze everything.
Author Dawn26 Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Motive2002 I aspire to have your serenity and coolness one day. Your right though...I'm just going to take it as it comes. I still don't know if he's text or called because like I mentioned before my cell phone is broken and I'm waitng on the insurance to pay out. I appreciate your cool advice.
Author Dawn26 Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 I just wanted to update you guys on my current situation and no I have not heard from him. It does not matter at this point, I do not know what wrong or what made him drift away, but I don't care anymore. It doesn't seem like he will call anymore but even if he does I won't pick up. Oh well......
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