Peter_pan Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 right, went out last night, drunk like a fish, was with 3 mates, meet 3 girls, had one each lol. took them back to mates house and talked put a film on, got the convo of sexual fantasies on the roll. one was all over me on the couch, she put her legs over me and started stroking my privates, she asked if i wanted to go to the toilet with her. her mate over heard and giggled. ive not ever had a girl offer that before so i felt awkward and i kinda avoided the question. and i ended up kissing her and putting my hand up her dress before she left. the state i was in i dont know if i would have been able to get it up, so thought if she is that into me then she would want to meet again some point. maybe take it from there. ive never been a guy to do one nighters so why start now. but i was thinking, should i have done something, man up, live my youth. she is 18 im 21. she is friends with the other 2 girls, one of which has been hooking up with my other pal anyway, was a good night and feels good getting female attention lol
zaphodb2002 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Just because you didn't sleep with a girl doesn't make you any less of a man. In fact, it may make you more of one, given the situation. I'm not saying don't have fun, but don't feel you have to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Random sex may be fun, too, but I've never been a fan. Always better when you're in a relationship. If you see her again, and she really is into you, and wasn't just drunk, then you can certainly see if it leads somewhere. Bottom line: If you're meeting a girl for the first time, and she's wasted, you probably shouldn't screw her in the bathroom. Just sayin'. =)
Author Peter_pan Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 Just because you didn't sleep with a girl doesn't make you any less of a man. In fact, it may make you more of one, given the situation. I'm not saying don't have fun, but don't feel you have to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Random sex may be fun, too, but I've never been a fan. Always better when you're in a relationship. If you see her again, and she really is into you, and wasn't just drunk, then you can certainly see if it leads somewhere. Bottom line: If you're meeting a girl for the first time, and she's wasted, you probably shouldn't screw her in the bathroom. Just sayin'. =) lol yeah thats kinda what i thought makes me feel better. i know there are some (most) that would just have gone for it.
zaphodb2002 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Absolutely. And that's what separates us from the other guys: class. Girls dig it, you know.
moman Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 She's probably at home thinking that she's not hot enough for you and wondering how you could turn her down. Good job man, that will drive her nuts. I bet the next time you see her she is all over you and then you join her for a visit in the toilet.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 ah wkd, so i have actually done a really good thing love it. i have another repeat date with another girl this week coming to! haha i feel like a player. well to be fair i am playing the field! yeh her mate spoke to me on fb and said, was a good nite, you and (her name) ... i could get used to all this female attention, after being with one girl for over 3 years, im finally coming out my shell and living it up. i wasnt even out on the pull, in fact i was trying to just have a lads night
You'reasian Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 She might think you're gay - just depends on her maturity and clarity.
Author Peter_pan Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 hmm yeh she could do.. do you think then because of what i did (or didnt do) that that would indicate that i am actually gay? is it really that big a deal? do i need to just let go and follow through offers like that to not be looking "gay"? ps i know i am straight... i was just wondering how i need to go about things in the future
chrislovestosurf Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 i've bitched out plenty of times, i guess im just shy at first. It has cost me many one night stand prospects. Nothing to worry about, you will screw when you really want to, right? God sluts are wonderful arent they?
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Uh - the fact that you were making out with her and put your hand up her dress would not be signs to me that you're gay. I can understand the excitement of ONSs, so was a little disappointed to see the anti-climax to your encounter. But honestly - they can leave you feeling pretty empty especially if that's not really your thing.
zaphodb2002 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 hmm yeh she could do.. do you think then because of what i did (or didnt do) that that would indicate that i am actually gay? is it really that big a deal? do i need to just let go and follow through offers like that to not be looking "gay"? ps i know i am straight... i was just wondering how i need to go about things in the future Of course not! You kissed her, even felt her up, lol. Not gay activities. Furthermore, you don't wanna be involved with someone who writes off a guy who doesn't sleep with her on the first meeting as gay. That's just a slutty bitch. They're usually all loose and diseased anyway.
Author Peter_pan Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 thanks for the replies. yeah i have made a conscious decision today to go to a clinic at the end of this month and get tested for everything since ive always worried about the worse for so long now, its been my fear for over 3 years. i want to rid my demons. the only thing im worried about is actually being in the clinic lol... with my recent ex who i was with for 3 months, i reckon she was cheating on me with her ex (who was a stud apparently) and was still hanging around. i was just dumb and put up with it. we never had sex but i did oral and so id rather just go and make sure i am ok rather than taking her word for it that she was ok. then i can put my mind at ease once and for all. or at least get treated if it is something. back on topic, what do you guys do if you were in my position about the ONS, cause i would have loved to have gone to the toilet with her for a bit of fun but my mind was really saying **** she could have an sti so just dont go. mini alarm bells going off, id rather know the person a little bit better.. but all my mates would have gone i reckon and if they had a condom, probably sealed the deal. I dont want to seem like a "gay" or whatever. i think its the way ive been brought up. mom is catholic. but i could sure do with some excitement in my life lol its not like ive had sex for over a year... and im 21... does this mean im not cut out for one night stands or any form of intimacy unless i am comfortable with them?, am i being to cautious and should live a little. i would always use a condom if sexual intercourse was going to take place but what if she was going to give me head first. it would be strange to whip out a condom right? ive just never been in that situation and want to know how to prepare for it in the future. obviously i know going home with a girl would imply something is going to happen, she was a friend of my mates friend. but still.. i just dont want the sti alarm ringing in my head every time i want to get intermit with a girl, but obviously id rather not contract any sti just for "a bit of fun" this has however opened my mind into how much i would actually love a lover lol
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