torranceshipman Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Hey guys, So I had a great date with my new guy last night, and he bought up the relationship talk, asking me if I'd thought about what we're doing, where this is all headed, etc. I thought it was great that he wanted the talk (unusual for a man to bring it up early?), BUT at the same time, we're only on date 6 - so I personally wouldn't have ever bought it up yet-seems TOO early for us to know how we feel. He said he is definitely a 1 woman man, and doesnt really like casual hook ups etc, that we obviously get on great, that we're in that great infatuation stage at the moment, but its after thats passed that we can get a grip on how compatible we are as we'll know eachother better - e.g. we havent had our first argument yet, etc (his example). He said that he has a tendency to rush in so was trying to exercise some caution with me...I said, very logical, as I am the same and am trying to hold back a bit myself. Sounds reasonable to me, as like I say,date 6 would normally be too early for me to make big decisions or to have this talk! I also met him the weekend he emigrated to this country (his furniture hasnt even arrived yet!!)-and he has a big new job, plus professional exams, etc, so I always presumed I shouldnt pressure anything early days as he has a lot going on. He always compliments me, saying how gorgeous I am, and doesnt seem to completely believe me when I say the same about him, and he makes comments like he'd imagine someone who looks like me would be with the athletic great looking jock type etc... So my question...is he just being logical and straightforward by bringing this up early, and saying lets take it slow (commendable) to see if we have the foundations for something good long term...or is there a red flag here (i.e. is this all man speak for no wanting to commit to something??). I do want to be cautious as I do like him a lot. Thanks guys
zaphodb2002 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Sounds like he likes you, and he's trying to tell you that. I think 6 dates is long enough to say "Hey, I like you a lot and I'd like to make this a regular thing" don't you? He's probably the kind of guy who's interested in a long term thing, and trying to see if you're the same. If you're not looking for anything serious, he probably wants to know. Also, I don't think there's a such thing as man speak. There's bull****, which guys do a lot to get into girls' pants, and this doesn't sound anything like that, and there's honesty.
Author torranceshipman Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Hi guys, Thanks for the wisdom! I'm glad this sounds like a good thing. Ruggy - we've already been intimate (that side of things is great!)...do you think that changes the way this situation looks at all?
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