spoo Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Me, 23. My friend/coworker-turned-boyfriend, 24. We've known each other for about 1.5 years, starting dating on and off 11 months ago, and have been officially together since 7 months ago. At this point, we both want to leave our company when our contract ends in 4-5 months. He's really excited about getting a job internationally and I am conflicted by responsibility (move back to my family to take care of them) and my own desires (get a job in another country). I should also mention that he's in a "quarter-life" crisis--he wants to still feel free and young again and doesn't want to feel like he's going to be working a 8 to 5 job all of his life. Naturally, I brought up questions about us and the future, considering that we're in a serious relationship. He's been hesitant, saying that asking me to move with him across the country is like asking me to marry him (which is absurd in my opinion), and that he gets really torn up inside thinking about staying with me or fulfilling his quarter-life crisis by moving to another country independent of anyone (including me). Is it unreasonable for me to make him decide now if he wants us to be together after our contract ends, considering that we still have 4-5 more months to figure this all out?
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