Peter_pan Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 i noticed and was thinking about you a lot i know you can do better, but i know its hard when your in the situation stay off the booze, drink apple juice instead hehe and your worth a lot more than this dude stuffing you up. so try your best not to allow it. he is no good for ya and your beautiful so dont let him taint that.
foxh1234 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Hi D-Lish, Ok, your retarded . Stay off the booze, your doing great. You deserve to be happy and you will, nuff said.
Saint Valentine Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I'm relieved that somebody finally had the guts to say it. Bravo!
sb129 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 D-Lish, I don't think you are retarded. But I do think some time sans booze AND men would really do you good. Keep up the good work, and welcome back.
Saint Valentine Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I'm no language expert, but I believe that "sans" is French for "enjoying." As usual, I agree with sb129's comments.
Peter_pan Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I'm no language expert, but I believe that "sans" is French for "enjoying." As usual, I agree with sb129's comments. me to haha ur avatar, one great big snow cock?
darby1 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Haha .. jk. You are not alone. Its a love/hate thing with the one's who make ya feel like Jello. Don't know what it is.. but I get ya. You are definitely vulnerable right now though.. you've done right for yourself and now want love .. snap snap! bring the love... love please... hello? love? LOVE ME!!! My advice.. sit back, relax, and STAY FOCUSED ON YOU! It feels so nice to have that yummy felling, but its a powerful feeling that can distract you so easily and snap you into a sadness if not reciprocated quickly. YOU are doing good for yourself and you did it for you, on your own, no one else did that! you did it! Don't be scared and needy for someone else to covet that love you are feeling for yourself. It is very real, a good thing and should be shared with caution. Maybe I steared a bit of course with that, but that's what I see. Hold onto yourself and let no one shake you down.. especially yourself giving too much credit to someone who looks great only in your imagination right now. Make him earn your admiration and prove worthy before you let those feeling ride! In the meantime.. enjoy yourself! Stay Strong! and remember.. Lust is a drug too, don't get addicted to that next.. just as destructive as any.
Meaplus3 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 I adore him. He doesn't want anything serious, but he plays the role of being in love when he feels like it (a lie). Well if your looking for something serious and he's not than perhaps it's time to move on from him. I went into Rehab Feb15th. A boot camp- drop the alcohol, act like an army recruit robot. Lost 10 pounds, started running- really felt like I got my **** together. Good for you. Really the more you focus on dropping the alcohol the better off you will be.Trust me on this I know. He contacted me tonight. Made me feel like jello again. I don't want to be jello. Then don't be jello. You deserve the best and don't settle for anything less. Hugs. Mea:)
sedgwick Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Oh come off it and just have a drinky-poo Is this what you would say to a crack addict? "Oh, just come off it and have a smokey-poo?" Good for you, D-Lish, for getting off alcohol. That's awesome, keep it up! And I wouldn't call you retarded, seeing as how my dear friend's little girl has Down Syndrome and I know how that word makes her feel.
alphamale Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 He contacted me tonight. Made me feel like jello again. I don't want to be jello. we are what we are D-L
mark982 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 d-lish, i pray you dumped the beer out.you're doing great by being sober.it's a tough road at first. remember 90 in 90.right now you need NO outside distractions, and do what's right for you, and you only.i'll be praying for you.
Author D-Lish Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 I feel back to normal a bit today. It was just a minor set back that evoked a brief, but highly emotional response. Some days are hard, others are not. I think it's about breaking the habit. I got into a habit of isolating myself and the computer became my social outlet- and the alcohol just started becoming a part of that. So instead of stopping at the beer store on the way home from work, I go to the gym. As for the ex, he's not good for me, he is in fact very toxic to me. I can't help how I still feel about him, but I can control whether or not I respond. I think the better I start to feel about myself (and I am starting to), the less I will feel vulnerable to a person undeserving of my love. Yesterday and today were much better days.
Saint Valentine Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I feel back to normal a bit today. That's great news. Some days are hard, others are not. I know that feeling exactly. I wish it was hard all the time, but life doesn't always cooperate with one's deepest desires.
Trialbyfire Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Glad to hear you're doing better D! You've got it all going. Don't let this dominate your life. You know something? While you might not agree, I think in some ways, this guy has been good for you. You can feel again. After what your ex-H did to you, sometimes it takes a shot of pain to get us back into the real world. This doesn't mean that you should be this guy's booty call but maybe your heart and mind are strong enough to handle the risk of a real relationship now. Once you've managed to move on from this guy, you might find that it's only a matter of time before someone worthwhile comes along. In the past, you might have run away from someone worthwhile, since it could have meant risk of feeling and pain.
Author D-Lish Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Glad to hear you're doing better D! You've got it all going. Don't let this dominate your life. You know something? While you might not agree, I think in some ways, this guy has been good for you. You can feel again. After what your ex-H did to you, sometimes it takes a shot of pain to get us back into the real world. This doesn't mean that you should be this guy's booty call but maybe your heart and mind are strong enough to handle the risk of a real relationship now. Once you've managed to move on from this guy, you might find that it's only a matter of time before someone worthwhile comes along. In the past, you might have run away from someone worthwhile, since it could have meant risk of feeling and pain. Thanks, He really is the first guy I have really opened up to since ex-H. I felt the connection, and this time I risked it and went with it. The risk didn't pan out, and as much as it still disrupts me when he starts nosing around... I am handling it. We probably weren't good for one another because we are currently in the same place- trying to discover our passion and niche in life... so as much as that probably drew us closer and we got along so well because of those commonalities- both of us are still lost, searching for our paths... It's a really bad place to start a relationship with someone. I can recognize that. Besides- a lot of our time we spent together was going out for dinners and having beers, party time. He wants to stay there in that mode as he figures things out... I want to get serious with life and really move forward. I've done the partying route- the only place it led me was a place of self destruction. I have a goal of being in a new place in 2 months. I've always wanted to live in downtown Toronto- and I am taking the steps now to make that happen. A fresh start- a sober start. I want a completely different life. I'd risk it again (love)- the only difference is that I am not seeking it now. I want to concentrate on my putting my life back in order first. I'm excited about it actually. I think when I get settled and start accomplishing things, I'll reclaim some of that self esteem and confidence I lost somewhere in these past 6 years. When you don't feel worthy yourself... you don't exactly choose winners as friends as lovers. Like attracts like. When I get to that point where I am waking up every day happy and looking forward to my day- THEN I will be in a better position to make smart choices about dating. It will happen- I'm feeling much more optimistic. Thanks everyone.
Lovelybird Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Great insight, D-lish ! I am happy for you, you are really making progress now
Saint Valentine Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 We probably weren't good for one another because we are currently in the same place- I know what you mean. LDRs can be a great way to get the emotional support you need, without having somebody constantly sapping your creative energy with wild, passionate sex.
Author D-Lish Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 I know what you mean. LDRs can be a great way to get the emotional support you need, without having somebody constantly sapping your creative energy with wild, passionate sex. So would you like to start up a LDR with me then? That snowman bf of yours should be melting soon- maybe take a day or two to grieve and then give me a shout.
pandagirl Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I'd risk it again (love)- the only difference is that I am not seeking it now. I want to concentrate on my putting my life back in order first. I'm excited about it actually. I think when I get settled and start accomplishing things, I'll reclaim some of that self esteem and confidence I lost somewhere in these past 6 years. When you don't feel worthy yourself... you don't exactly choose winners as friends as lovers. Like attracts like. When I get to that point where I am waking up every day happy and looking forward to my day- THEN I will be in a better position to make smart choices about dating. It will happen- I'm feeling much more optimistic. Thanks everyone. D, for what it's worth, I totally noticed you were gone and glad you are back. It's all about loving yourself. The hardest person to fall in love with IS yourself and it takes a lot of work, but I know you will do it and when that times comes, everything will fall into place. You're kind, compassionate and loving -- now you just have to treat yourself that way, too.
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