Prim&proper Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 So my on again, off again bf and I were together in total of 14 months. We broke up at 4 months, got together 2 months later, at 14 months, got together 1.5 months later and then we ended it for good after 2 weeks. We broke up because he doesn't feel like we have long term potential because something was missing in our relationship. I've come to accept that I have to let him go. But I want to know how long it takes before this sad, lonely, depressed feelings goes away? I know that the last two times we broke up,2 months wasn't long enough and I was still upset after 2 months, though I had good days and bad days. So how long did it take you after a breakup to start feeling better again?
Truly Lost Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 It takes a while. There is no real way to determine how soon you will get over someone. It depends on how you choose to deal with it and how much emotional dependance you had on the other person. If you choose to sit at home and dwell alone, its going to take a long time. If you try to occupy your time with outside distractions like, hanging out with friends, getting new hobbies, etc...you might find yourself getting over the person sooner than later. You may always have a soft spot in your heart for that person, but really replacing that person with someone else is not the key, if you aren't ready. So don't go out and find someone immediately. That won't work. There is always a mourning period. Its up to you to decide how long you need. Take it easy. Its not a race, just time to heal. Only you will know when you are ready. If you aren't ready to meet someone else, people around you will pick up on that. My advice is to get back to your happy self when you are ready. Then, and only then, will you be ready to take up on relationship with someone else. No one can take you seriously if your attention is divided.
LostLamb Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 I've felt awful the last couple of days just as I was feeling over him and starting to think of other. It's important not to obsess over how long it should take as we are all different. Just do your best- NC(if you have decided to) , looking after yourself , doing things that make you happy etc
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