missdependant Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Okay so a little history about us.. We met online over a year ago and have been dating over a year now. We are now expecting a baby which was unplanned. Anyway, I was very excited to find out about the pregnancy and so was he. We still are.. we are on completely different schedules. We only see each other for about an hour a day, despite living together because we're on different schedules. Since becoming pregnant, I have noticed that I feel a serious need for affection and closeness. I'm not getting it through him. I sleep alone every night, and he sleeps alone every day.. when I'm at work, he's awake.. He works on my days off and I work on his days off.. We are both working a lot, because we want to save for the baby.. we also are trying to rush through the rest of school. Whenever we do have time together we end up fighting and focusing on the negative parts of our relationship. Has anyone ever been through pregnancy noticed some crazy changes, had a lot of fights or does anyone know if perhaps it's just a phase? I'd like to think we just hit a rough spot in our relationship... but I'm so scared that we will just be one of those angry, old married couples deprived of sex and fun in life..
carhill Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Well, think of it this way. All the money in the world will do you no good if you're alone and unhappy. First, establish that you are a team. Sounds like the team needs to make some hard choices to improve intimacy. What do do?
wuggle Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Agree with Carhill, if you don't make it together then money won't seem that important. Sounds like you MUST make a lot more time for each other. One of you needs to change your schedules. I suggust you try to do this sooner rather than later, you need to be strong before your baby arrives as there will be a lot more pressure after.
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