monkeymaid Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 i feel like i am in a good place, have been doing alot, got cut up for summer already, going to school, new martial arts, dancing etc... and have been out on a few dates w my ex whom i am trying to get back with. she seems open to it but very standoffish about it (i broke up with her) as she doesnt want to get hurt again,and says she doesnt want me to get hurt. she went to frisco the other day, and today i woke up to a bad dream about her having a 1 nigh stand w someone who is taller, richer etc... in frisco and its eating me up inside. i cant curb this thought, and has ****ed with me all day. how do you guys deal when you have thoughts of inferiority and insecurity/nervousness about your SO or someone you want to be.
Scorpio13c Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Hey Monkey, You broke up with her for a reason right? What was it? Scorp
Author monkeymaid Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 i pushed her away because i thought she was going to leave me anyway (i am working on some LSE issues). i got clingy and needy, and couldnt deal with myself, so i thought she should be free of that and she didnt need it. i was/am still in love as she is too (she said so, and i could sense it when were together), but shes afraid that ill do it again. since the break up, ive been seeing a shrink, and its helping alot. im not seeing the psychologist for her but dealing with all of my past issues (mommy stuff, daddy codependency and LSE etc...), and being able to be emotionally stable for her is just a perk. i know its going to take time, but my feelings have come out today more than normal, and im just trying to consciously reduce the amount they are affecting my mood. they arent affecting my actions, just making me feel low and sad. any tips on how to bring yourself up when nothing seems to be working?
Scorpio13c Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Hey, it's really tough, I know. I think a big part of the problem is the fact you're still in contact with her, you aren't giving youself a chance to heal. When you do decide to cut contact, you'll eventually start to feel better with time. After that, talking with close friends & posting here even, will help alleviate the remaining sadness that may occur. Best of luck! Scorp
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