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Would you consider this a red flag?


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I work at a high school and there is this sub teacher who comes in every now and then and he is kind of flirtatious and seems interested--in fact, he seemed like he was looking for an opportunity to talk to me alone today, but we never got that chance. He is quite attractive with very piercing blue eyes.

 

The possible red flag is that one of the girls told me today that she and a couple of the other girls think he's creepy b/c he stares at them. This girl seems pretty mature, so I don't think she'd make anything up, but then again, most kids don't like subs and think they're weird anyway, lol. I was just about to write him off though, b/c why take a chance, but then I remembered that all subs have to pass an FBI check in our state, so if he has anything on his record, he wouldn't be subbing anyway. Any thoughts? WWYD?

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Wait, your potential red flag is some stupid crap a kid told you? lol How about you get to know him first and decide for yourself whether he's okay or not? That would be the mature thing to do.

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Wait, your potential red flag is some stupid crap a kid told you?

 

I agree. I can see a girl trying to boost her own ego trying to make others think that a hot older guy wants her.

 

I can see it now..."he's like...so creepy..ya know. he like...stares at me all the time...ya know" in that valley girl kinda way.

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Sorry, I should have mentioned that this is not the first time one of the girls has said it. Someone mentioned it the other day also, though she didn't say anything about his staring at her in a sexual way. I am way, way new to this dating thing and not looking for anything too serious, but my kids are teenage girls.

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Agree with prettybaby too. Find out for yourself. If he does turn out creepy, you can always drop him. That's what casual dating is for.

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I remember a lot of male teachers and/or subs being suspected or accused of being "perverts"...most of the time I thought people were just exaggerating whatever they heard or saw; high school girls tend to be drama queens too. Anyway the point is, it seems like male teachers catch this kind of stuff all the time, just because they are males, and being teachers, they have to interact with younger girls or whatever, there are so many things that can easily be misinterpreted as creepy.

 

This doesnt rule out the idea completely but that goes for any guy you might be interested in...the FBI info alone would be more comforting to me. But I wouldn't call it a "red flag". Get to know him in a way that's comfortable and if you start to feel like something's off, then don't date him.

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you should find out first-hand if he's weird or not :)

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Well you all told me what I wanted to hear.:D

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