Kristine Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I'm assuming it's the woman, but do men ever relocate to the woman's place of residence?
clv0116 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I'd say the sensible thing would be to look at three potential options, her place, his place, or a third as yet not determined place. Take whichever option is most pragmatic.
Trialbyfire Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 There are two members who I can think of, where the man relocated or is relocating: Island girl's husband is in the midst of relocation and GreenCove, had an LDR situation that relocated.
Author Kristine Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Thanks, never even thought of a third place. Pragmatics makes sense. Had to ask, on-line dating and well a cute guy from a way different state showed interest and before I get involved I wanted some understanding of how things could/would work.
addictingpancake Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 in my case, it is my bf who will be relocating.
Island Girl Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 As TBF said my husband is relocating - leavig his country to come back here. He knows I am extremely close with my family and he is used to being without his because he moved away at 17 to play professional rugby. So he is coming here as long as immigration says "yes". We'll find out soon. If the answer is "no" we will be relocating to another country - either Australia or New Zealand - because his country has no economy to speak of.
Trialbyfire Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Kristine, before any thoughts of relocation happen, make 100% certain you know the man, inside and out. In Island Girl's situation, it didn't start out as an LDR, but became one after a year+. I got involved in an LD situation with someone who I met online on a site we both frequented. The man I thought he was, wasn't even close to the truth. In the end, thank goodness we never met. Someone was looking out for me and allowed me to see what a petty individual he really was inside. When you're basing your judgement on textual exchanges and phone calls, your mind and the other person, can fool you...badly!
konfuzd Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 My bf moved to my city. Kind of a different situation since we met in my city and his best friend lives here too, but in any case it was him who relocated. It all depends on where you both are in life, who has the most to gain/lose from the move.
Nicodaemos Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Im a guy, and if I could have, I would be there already. Also, what Island girl said, if immigrations says no, they would both go to a different place. All the same issues happen in LDR, cause in a close relationship, who moves in with who, or they both go in together. Same here, only its not just about a few hundred miles, but sometimes cross countries, and vastly different cultures as well. If you havent even started it yet, but are thinking so cause he is cute, you may want to find more than that. Its not easy caring about someone you cant even see. Im am not saying dont get interested in someone only on looks, but dont get too involved based on superficial things. Thoughts of moving should not be a concern at the beginning, but rather finding out if the other is even someone you want to spend time with.
Ricky01 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I'm assuming it's the woman, but do men ever relocate to the woman's place of residence? In my case, I wanted to. On the other hand, I had financial obligations to apprehend. Where I lived I had a job that required me to travel alot and paid me well for it. at 23 I was making $84k a year, I wanted to relocate back to Florida to be with my exgf on a full time basis, but jobs were just too scarce and low salary. She volunteered to move to AL, though I wan't sure if she woudl like it there. But, she was doing it to be with me, so I figured we can make the best out of this situation. Just the money we saved on traveling to see one another would pay for her college, she can become a full tiem student and work on her degree and we can have a happy little "family" thing going on until she was graduated, and we can flip flop financial roles so we can move to where we wanted to be and allow me time to find a proper job and/or go back to school myself. Didn't work, I still planned to move to FL, and I did... but in efforts to mend us back together. It was too late, I am still paying for that move today, I moved back to AL because of the same situation I earlier mentioned. But, I had to move there... to know. I just had to know for myself. I don't think it is a matter of gender, in my case it was of financial security. In others' situations, it may be different.
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