confused2309 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I met a girl via online dating. we chatted and texted and spoke alot for acouple of weeks then we decided to meet. We met for lunch and ended up spending the afternoon and evening together, walking around and chatting. Everything went really well. about a week later she came to my house for dinner. everything again went really well, when she left we hugged and ended up kissing, i walked her to her car and kissed again. We continued texting each other alot the day after. but then the next day I hardly heard anything from her. she came on msn that eveing and started talking to me. i asked her when she was next free, and she said she was busy the next few weekends, and asked when i was free. She agreed that we would find a time. we then said goodnight. Then the next day I heard nothing from her, at all. Is there any advice anyone can give me?
I'm Joe Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Still seems a bit early... have a little more patience. if a week goes by and she still hasnt contacted you then you might want to start the worry train. I'd wait another day until you contact her though.
remid Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Stop contacting her for a few days. If she comes back to you, it will give a clue that she's really interested and anyway, you'll have time to think and find if you really like her (it's difficult to think objectively when you're always in touch). Moreover, I have noticed from my very little experience that showing too much interest from the very beginning is a big turn off. It looks like everybody says he's not playing game but flirting is all about playing...
fishtaco Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 She agreed to find free time and contact you. There's nothing more you can do without slipping into stalker-land. Although this is not a good sign, there is a possibility that she may be genuinely busy or is having some sort of life issues. If that's the case, you two really don't know each other well enough for her to drag you in or even tell you about it. I would keep the bare minimum of contact with her and have patience. Don't try to force anything. You contact her once in a blue moon just to say simple hello and how she's doing and all that. Don't invite her out to anything, she already said she'll let you know. Like Joe said, sometimes you want to wait for her to initiate the contact. If she never does, you're pretty much out. If she does, maybe it's a good sign, maybe she's just stringing you along, you take it one step at a time, and wait and see. And since you have several weekends free now. Go on dates with someone else. If you have options, and you find out three weeks later she's just stringing you along, then who cares, you're going on dates with other women anyway. If she is genuinely busy, then you can still resume going on dates with her. Multi-dating really fixes a lot of these guessing games, for both genders. She did this, what does it mean? He did that, is he still interested? Who cares, just date a bunch of people and see which one comes through. BTW, you will never understand women. Don't even bother trying. Your head will explode.
Author confused2309 Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 well last night she texted me responding to message i sent her. i didnt get the message till 20 mins after as i didnt have my phone on me at the time. i replied asking if she was up to anything interesting this weekend, which we usualy do. and said night night. she replied instantly saying 'night night xx'. i then went back to my laptop and she had sent me a message on msn 45mins before saying 'hey' the last few weekends she has always texted me in the morning, where ever she been, at home or at a friends. but then today nothing. after doing a few bits this morning i sent a message just saying a few bits small knickknacks about what i had been doing. but again i have recieved nothing. well i suppose i just have to wait again.
Yamaha Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 The thing is she knows what you want and she doesn't seem ready to make that step yet. YOu just have to cool your heels and see if she decides to take your dating to the next level. I would continue dating other women and don't just wait on her. I don't care how much you like her, if you act needy it will be a turn off. Live your life and if she decides to be apart of it fine, but don't wait on her. Her interest level isn't the highest.
carhill Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Date other women and use the phone (as in talk) to make dates. New rule: No date requests or conversations via text. If you can text you can talk. You do talk on dates, don't you?
zaphodb2002 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 BTW, you will never understand women. Don't even bother trying. Your head will explode. This is the truest thing I think I've ever heard.
gopher Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Most likely she was also chatting with other online guys and may be dating one or more of them...Your best bet is to not limit your possibilities and do the same.
Author confused2309 Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 she has sent me a couple more messages today, and asking if im doing fun stuff today. i think im expecting to much as were still at a very early stage. but will see how it all pans out.
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