Round two....this isnt the first time....dont want a repeat of the last

[Loss 4 words]

My GF( well, fiance/future wife) has got me once again into "flight or fight" mode and from what i feel, our foundation is crumbling and i can only see one outcome and its not one that i want.....and if it is destined, id rather feel it now than later...cant stand this feeling any longer.

 

For the most, our relationsip is good, but it seems that more and more we are having our share of problems, be it internal between us, with her family, or her supposed friends.

 

She (to me at least) has a VERY short fuse anymore....not like she had when we first met and started going steady...she gets pissy at even the slightest remark that she doesnt like that i make (which is becoming more common), is easily overwhelmed with her children (due to their very poor behavior and acting out against her), and it doesnt help the fact that her family is also causing alot of her stress and in turn she becomes (not hostile because she still is pleasant) but more so withdrawn from me and i take it VERY personally.....

 

She sometimes just seems very dissatisfied as a whole, wont let me pick her brain to try and help her get over some problems. She's just not acting "normal" and it's got me concerned.....any ideas?

 

I will admit that she is under alot of stress right now, but it seems that the one who's supposed to help her the most (moi), is being shut out instead of being let in to help.

 

I am a very emotional person, more so than most women ( as told to me by my closest friends...which they cannot fault me for) so maybe im just over reacting, but it's feeling is all too real and im going crazy trying to sort out what is real and what is all in my head.

[girlsweetness]

Hi,

 

Sometimes women want to say how they are feeling but don't want a man to solve their problems, they just want a sounding board. I am not sure if you pick her brain by trying to problem solve but this can be a bad thing for some women. Maybe she has a lot on her plate and needs to figure out her life and issues with her kids etc. She might need to build a better social network so that you are not always on the end getting into fight or flight mode. Maybe you should try to organize something relaxing - a walk in nature, spa, or something she really enjoys and bask in an activity rather than talking, this can be helpful.

[Excellent]

Sounds to me like she, or the both of you, needs some time for yourselfs. Why not take a weekend trip or something somewhere, just the two of you? Don't you have anyone that can watch your kids for a couple of days?

 

I think this would be the best to get her to relax a bit, and then she might feel relaxed enough to open up, and perhaps tell you if something else is bothering her except the stress.