lovestory5 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I am married for two years and we have a child who 1,3 years old, but I have understood that I don't love my husband any more. I don't know what to do? If we part I will need to rent an apartment, but I can't work now as I have a small child. I don't want to save the family just because of the child. What should I do?
lostsunsets Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 You will have to plan. You will have to get a job. You say you don't love your husband. Could you possibly have PPD (post partum depression)? How long have you felt this way? I would suggest going to counseling together. And just one more thing to think about. I suppose you will be OK with your husband remarrying, and the other woman being a mother to your daughter half the time?
65tr6 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I am married for two years and we have a child who 1,3 years old, but I have understood that I don't love my husband any more. I don't know what to do? If we part I will need to rent an apartment, but I can't work now as I have a small child. I don't want to save the family just because of the child. What should I do? So say, you somehow manage to find work and you are financially supported, ....you want your husband to leave you and your kids alone ? So what is missing from him when you first married him ? Is he abusive ?
Dexter Morgan Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I am married for two years and we have a child who 1,3 years old, but I have understood that I don't love my husband any more. I don't know what to do? If we part I will need to rent an apartment, but I can't work now as I have a small child. I don't want to save the family just because of the child. What should I do? Could it be because you are now a mom you don't love him? Things changed after becoming a parent?
aferg Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 I am in your spot exactly. Or almost exactly. I don't know if I truly don't love my husband or if I try to tell myself i don't because we are having so much trouble. Our son is 1 also. I am a stay at home mom. I think my husband may be or will cheat on me. I also think I have had a bad case of post partum depression. If I had it, it has started to get better. And some days I feel like my old vibrant sexy, successful self and I sometimes feel like I love my hubby. But when I have bad days, I hate him, and myself for being top dependant on him. I feel like I will never be successful in a career, or in love because I have a baby now. If your feelings are true, and you really don't want to be married anymore, then you will have to start picturing a new life as a single mother. What does it look like? Do you have family and friends to supprt you? Emotionally, financially until you get on your feet? Good luck, it will take a lot of strength, but you should not stay in a loveless marriage because of finances. Make your own life happen for you and your child!
Author lovestory5 Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 Mayme I have PPD. I don't know. I felt this way since my childwas born. I will never give my child to another woman. he can get married again, but my daught will be with me only. She is the best thing from our marriage.
Author lovestory5 Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 I don't have work and I am not financially supported. I want him to leave me alone, but he doesn't want beacsue he says that he loves me and our child. His behavior of doing nothing probabbly caused such a problem. It is very hard to have a new born child. Now she is 1,3 and she doesn't sleep at night well. I am tired of all this. One night from all the nights I asked him to be with her and next day he was so angry because he diidn't sleep at night. And how do I live if I didn't sleep well for 1,3 all nights.
Author lovestory5 Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 I know that I shouldn't be with him if I don't love him, but I don't have where to live and I have no help from from friends or parents. This is the point.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 If you're involved in the religious community at all, talk to your church-dude...you know, pastor, priest, whatev. He might have recommendations for help for you. Organizations to help you find childcare, housing, and a job. Otherwise, as far as family is concerned - you just don't have ANY, or they don't live nearby? Can you move closer to them and ask for assistance? I don't know what to tell you. But with the marriage, have you considered counseling? There really isn't ANY circumstance under which you might consider working on the relationship? Nobody can make the decision for you, but barring abuse or infidelity, I guess I don't understand ending a marriage so easily.
Author lovestory5 Posted March 3, 2009 Author Posted March 3, 2009 Thank for advice soul search. I also thought about the church. I have a family who lives nearby, but I don't want to put my problems on thir shoulders. I know that it will very hrad for them. I need to do it myself only. The only thing working on the realtionship is because of child and that's all. Thank you for all your advices.
Enema Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Mayme I have PPD. I don't know. I felt this way since my childwas born. I will never give my child to another woman. he can get married again, but my daught will be with me only. You're delusional. He has as much right to be in the childs life as you do - unless he's being abusive or will relinquish his rights. Your child will be around his (and probably your) new partner. Deal with it.
Author lovestory5 Posted March 5, 2009 Author Posted March 5, 2009 I don't protest the thing that he will spend the time with child, I am protest the the thing that he will live with me.
Sam Spade Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 I don't protest the thing that he will spend the time with child, I am protest the the thing that he will live with me. Wel if you have no job and you are the one initiating a divorce for no reason at all, you'll have a hard time getting 100% custody of the child (and rightly so!).
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