ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Alright, so I have been e-mailing back and forth a couple of times this woman I saw online. I asked her to speak over the phone and she replied back that she would like to. Oddly enough, she asked me for my phone number and not vice-versa. Is this good or bad? Think she's playing it safe? Just trying not to screw this up so early. Perhaps I will get a meet out of it if I play my cards right. My luck is against me so I guess I have to rely on my charisma over the phone.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Is that a good sign? Hell Yeah that's an awsome sign that shows she's upfront and serious about you. She's not gonna be around the bush playing games. That's what I wish more women would do, if your gonna be shy about it, you can ask in a coy way too. Men are tired of being rejected whehn they chase you.
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 I am not a shy dude by any sort. What are some good questions to ask her? She seems pretty smart with a PHd and all.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 LOL no I meant as in girls approaching men. But hey dont let the degree fool you mayn, she can still probably still get down. Take it easy and work it slow, it'll happen. Now doesnt this feel better than focusing on that ex of yours?
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 It does not bother me as much. Still get angry when I think of her though. Anyways, here's hoping to some success. Hope we do not have any dead silence. It always ruins things.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 It does not bother me as much. Still get angry when I think of her though. Anyways, here's hoping to some success. Hope we do not have any dead silence. It always ruins things. Not always, when your done talking, then it's time for action. *wink, wink.
D-Lish Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Alright, so I have been e-mailing back and forth a couple of times this woman I saw online. I asked her to speak over the phone and she replied back that she would like to. Oddly enough, she asked me for my phone number and not vice-versa. Is this good or bad? Think she's playing it safe? Just trying not to screw this up so early. Perhaps I will get a meet out of it if I play my cards right. My luck is against me so I guess I have to rely on my charisma over the phone. You'll have your answer if she calls you. When did you give her your number? Did you set a time up for the call? You really can't screw anything up at this point, because she has YOUR number- so it's up to her to contact you. Are you talking on msn or something at the moment? E-mailing? If this is the case, I'd just hold off from reaching out to her first. You asked to talk on the phone- she agreed she'd like that- she has your number now... Ball's in her court.
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Met her on a different dating site. She just replied a few hours ago. I did not give it to her yet. Did not want to look to disparate. I will reply in the morning. She asked for the number and a good time to call. So, what are some good lengthy intelligent topics to talk about?
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Be down to earth, if she's a doctor talk about something that you know about that's in her area of expertise. or matter of fact just tounge her down, palm her buttcheeks and get her back to your crib for some downtime. ...be easy. lol.
D-Lish Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Met her on a different dating site. She just replied a few hours ago. I did not give it to her yet. Did not want to look to disparate. I will reply in the morning. She asked for the number and a good time to call. So, what are some good lengthy intelligent topics to talk about? The best way to avoid gaps in a conversation is to ask questions. Ask her to tell you about what she is doing in school. Tell her a about your job, your hobbies.... There are so many questions to ask- siblings, pets, her Doctorate program, what she does for fun, the last trip she took. Asking questions will keep her talking and will inevitaby lead to her asking you questions. I am assuming that since she was assertive enough to ask for your number that she isn't shy- which means talking on the phone won't be a problem. That's good that she followed up with a request for your number and a good time to call- very positive. Replying tomorrow- also a good idea. Give her a couple of options/days/times when it's good to call and let her choose one. "I'm busy on X evening, but am free on X night"... You seem to be on the right track here.
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Appreciate the tips D-Lish. The guidance is very much welcomed. If it goes well, asking her to a first meet, like a drink or coffee, is that a bad idea?
lovestory5 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Of course, ask her for a coffee. Talk about the things she did yesterday. Ask what is she going to do at weekends? Maybe you could meet at weekends and go to the park or somewhere else. Buy flowers for her. : ) [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Assuming we meet I should bring flowers at a coffee meet? I think that may be a little too much. I usually buy flowers as a surprise during the relationship. Its been a while, since the last two relationships were duds, but the ones before I did it. That is usually when I do it.
Squirtal Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Hi Ruggy I wouldn't take flowers when meeting for coffee, may be a bit too much. But after coffee when you get a dinner date, flowers then might be nice, I know my fella brought me flowers and I was really chuffed. Good luck.
prettybaby Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Don't buy flowers. That's creepy, man. You guys have never even met lol The main thing is to stay calm over the phone, sound relaxed and ask questions to keep the conversation flowing Definitely ask her our for coffee at the end of the conversation (well, only if you enjoyed talking to her lol)
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Hi Ruggy I wouldn't take flowers when meeting for coffee, may be a bit too much. But after coffee when you get a dinner date, flowers then might be nice, I know my fella brought me flowers and I was really chuffed. Good luck. Hi Squirtal Did it work? As for the dinner date, that has yet to happen. Going to shoot for some java first.
Squirtal Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Hey hey Oh yes it worked...we live together now. Have you called her yet? Have you made a date??? I'm excited for you..LOL x
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Nope, not yet. Told her I get out of work at 3:00 (teacher) and she can call any time after that. We shall see. Here's hoping my past does not repeat. And yes, Prettybaby, your suggestions are right on the mark. Never really had a problem talking. I do that well. Can't you all notice from my posts . Keeping it interesting and a two way conversation, now that is the big thing. Need to leave somethings out of the phone call for the first meet (possibly pending).
Squirtal Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 We all have to go through a few..erm..losers for lack of a better word before we find someone decent...believe me...I have stories to make your hair curl..I actually gave up for a year because my dating experiences were getting overly extreme.. Just be you, and I reckon it will be great. Really hope you'll be telling us that you're meeting her this weekend!!
Author ruggy Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Yea, I hear you on the trials and tribulations of dating 101. Wish it was easier. Here's hoping for the best. Thanks for the support all!
Author ruggy Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 So we spoke this afternoon for about a half hour. She was laughing a lot so I assume that is a good sign. She actually tried to call me a few times, but I was out. She called back, so I guess that is a good sign too. Before I could suggest it, she recommended to meet up one day. I asked her for a good day, she said the weekends are best. Said good. I will call you mid week and we can setup a time to meet next weekend. She agreed and we both said goodbye. I was thinking of calling her Tues. or Wed. to setup the time. I do not want to look too anxious. It seemed she hinted at a movie. Should I go with that? Maybe a dinner and a movie? She is a bit old fashioned in that she prefers talking over the phone and meeting in person. At least I do not have to do that whole texting thing again with the last one. Suggestions?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 She actually tried to call me a few times, but I was out. She called back, so I guess that is a good sign too. Suggestions? Get a cell phone lol jk.. sorry sounds good best of luck...
Author ruggy Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 She called me later on in the day and we talked. Said she prefers to go out on the weekends. Guessing that means Saturday. Told me to call her during the week. I guess we are jumping into a first date and skipping the drinks episode. Is that good? She seemed to hint in wanting to see He's not into to you movie or something. Would the movie and then dinner work best?
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