wooha Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 My ex has called a few times in the past few weeks(2 months NC). First time I did'nt answer. Second, I returned the call. She was very sweet, wanted to meet for lunch on a sunday. Third call, on sunday was to tell me she could'nt meet for lunch(like I was expecting it, or cared!). Then she proceeded to start on me about my friends and fam, so I ended the conversation. She called Monday, to discuss an issue I'd already solved with her mother and I tried to say goodbye and be short, but she very sweetly asked how my day was. Then asked me about the limo my friends and I took to a party over the weekend(the first time I've been out in two months). She said that it hurt her feelings. I responded with "It hurt my feelings when you F*CKED another dude two days after we split", then I hung up. Was that an immature move on my behalf? What the hell does she want to go to lunch with me for? There is nothing to discuss between us.
Excellent Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 It hurt her feelings that your actually trying to have a fun life without her in the picture? Rofl. Imo, she probably got bored with the other guy and dumped him. Now she needs you for emotional support, and she is probably expecting that you will come running like a dog the minute she whistles. If you do that, she will keep doing it until she finds a new guy to play with. If you are interested in seeing her again, then stand your ground. Don't demand anything of her, just set a time and a day when YOU have the time to meet her when she calls again. If she is starting to make excuses then fine, just calmly and politely say ok, say goodbye and hang up. I wouldn't have done the shouting thing you did, but i do understand why. But if she calls again, just be calm and act like it's nothing. If you are cool and calm, and act like you really don't care if you can't meet her on her terms it will intrigue her. And it will show higher value on your part. If you are not interested, then just ignore her. Say thanks, but no thanks one time, and then ignore her if she starts nagging.
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