rhe8542 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 I recently got separated from my spouse of ten years and thought I would be O.K., but now I'm really regretting it. I have been trying to work things out between us, but found out my spouse is now interested in a coworker who has been separated about 6 months now. They attending a big party together about a week ago. My question is should I send an anonymous letter telling the other spouse whats going on, don't know how much it would matter to this person, but it may matter a great deal. Also it could force this person out of the picture or make matters worst. Thanks for any comments.
Geishawhelk Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 If you are separated, and she's seeing someone else, it looks as if she's taking the separation as a serious final gesture to your marraige. Also, if this other co-worker is separated too - I would imagine telling their spouse would just make their situation worse, not heal it. It would drive them further apart, and your wife and him closer together. You need to discuss with your wife whether she feels counselling would help you two build bridges - or burn them. if she balks or is reluctant - then I see little hope or point.....
BCCA Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 No, you shouldnt. Its unfortunate, but its none of your business what he does. And this is most certainly NOT going to have the impact you desire on what him and your ex do. You cant force her back into your arms like this, it just doesnt work that way. I would strongly urge you to not bother.
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