conehead Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Any girls in a relationship where the guy has not said "I love you" to you yet? How long have you been dating? Sometimes it seems like I'm being impatient, and sometimes it just feels like there aren't any special signs telling me that my guy loves me and will tell me he loves me. For everyone else on this thread, how long did it take for your guy to tell you those three words? Did you see it coming? *sigh* We are in an LDR, met each other's parents (he is the first bf my parents have met mainly because I now live with them), etc...I sometimes wonder how we have gotten this serious when we havent even exchanged 'I love yous'. It's like shouldn't all that serious stuff have happened AFTER we exchanged those 3 words?
OpenBook Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 From my experience, sometimes guys are really into you but afraid to say those scary words because they're afraid you might flip out on them, i.e., get all clingy and turn into a ravenous succubus. When guys DO say those words, though, they mean it!! They can (and usually do) lie about a lot of things (mostly to impress you)... but they don't mess around with "I love you." So in answer to your question, who knows? Leave it up to him when and if he will say it, and just go on about your business. Don't wait too long, though... and stay a bit reserved (don't "let it all hang out" with your own emotions). Good luck!!
BCCA Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Guys also dont want to say they love you, and then have you not say it back. Its happened to me, and you feel like a complete fool. Most guys will wait for the woman to say it first. How long have you two been dating? The meeting of parents is kind of irrelevant, I've met a girls parents after our 2nd date, and we certainly werent in love.
moman Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 The last couple girls I've dated said it after three weeks and two dates, respectively. I don't think there is any right or wrong length, just go with the flow and make sure it's right
burningashes Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Agree with the other posters. Actually, I had a convo about this with my bf not too long ago. I don't remember how it started, but we started to talk about when we told our respective exes that sort of thing etc. He said that he thought it depended on how well things were going and whether the feelings were there or not, he asked me the same question. I said that I don't use the saying lightly and when I say it, I mean it. All the while I reassured him that my feelings are there and that I was falling hard for him. He said it was all good and we haven't talked about it since. BUT- I get the feeling he's waiting for me to say it too, lol. He'd say things, "But you love me anyway," or "Would you still love me if I did this or that?" I think he's hinting and trying to pull me to say it! I mean, how would you respond to these questions? So far I'd say, "Indeed, I like you too much," something along that line without actually saying, "Yes, I would love you anyway" or I'd just nod and smile. Hehe. We've been dating a little over 2 months now. You could do this.... and you might get a better idea of where he's at. Sort of sneaky, I know :/ Sorry if I'm sort of jacking your thread, this is an interesting topic!
Star Gazer Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 BUT- I get the feeling he's waiting for me to say it too, lol. He'd say things, "But you love me anyway," or "Would you still love me if I did this or that?" I think he's hinting and trying to pull me to say it! I mean, how would you respond to these questions? So far I'd say, "Indeed, I like you too much," something along that line without actually saying, "Yes, I would love you anyway" or I'd just nod and smile. Hehe. We've been dating a little over 2 months now. My BF has been doing the same thing. We've been dating since the end of November. I was watching The Bachelor, and I said, "Oh, I heart Jason Mesnick." And he said, "No, you heart ME." And then I said, "Well, I heart you too, but I also heart Jason Mesnick. :p" He's also repeatedly said, "I adore you," and "I would do just about anything for you," (which he has) and the whole, "But you love me anyway." He also wanted to pick an "officially a couple" date - 2 months after the fact, for "anniversary purposes"! I teased him that he's "such a girl." I think he's been guaging my reaction, to see if I'm receptive to his declarations. He may not have said those three little words, but I am absolutely certain of his feelings for me. That, is enough for me.
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