does a break ever work? or is it always a nice way for a break-up?

[crazynluv_04]

so me and my boyfriend have been dating for three and a half years... this is our third big break up.. so yea roughly one a year. i know thats an unhealthy relationship and i feel sometimes i do want to get out of it i just love him so much. and i think im just scared of being alone.

we started dating in high school, grade 11 to be exact so he was my first time for many things if you get what i mean. its hard to let go.

we broke up last november for a total of 1 week. i got too upset over something stupid and he basically walked away, his dad passed away about 2 years ago and he says he just doesnt expect me to stay around because he loses the people that are important to him.

 

so anyways, when we broke up in niv i said this is the last time. i dont want to hurt anymore. and he went back home this last weekend with his friends and got super drunk and was dancing with some gilr all night. yea i know her and have talked to her, but that doesnt make it ok. i dont have a lot of trust in him because he lied right to my face this summer baout looking at online porn. so now we have decided to be on a break. becuase he said i deserve better and he doesnt know if he wants to fix this, there is something holding himback... i was so used to spending every day with him and texting him all the time and when that jsut stops its so lonely. i know i should leave him, but i dont get why he is being like this? if he loved me and cared for me as much as he said he did then why not just fix it? he didnt apologize or anything? im losing my mind sitting at home thinkning about it!! he hasnt texted me or tried to contact me! do you think he doesnt want to be with me? he's maybe jsut waiting for me to break up with him? please help!!

[Geishawhelk]

You have broken up.

 

The relationship is extremely unhealthy, and I would set your mind to realising that, as this is most certainly not the first time, then it looks less likely that this relationship is actually going anywhere fast.

 

I'm sorry, but really, you need to toughen up, and cut it loose.

 

If all you do is get back together - only to break up again a while later - then it's just a bit of a joke, really, isn't it?

[AGBourne]

Break = break up.

 

There is so many things there are wrong in your "relationship". Start fresh and improve youself.

 

Best way to move on is to cut off all contact.

[crazynluv_04]

it was a hard pill to swallow but i am better off starting new. and i did cut off all contact and we are no longer together which was really hard but im just taking it one day at a time. thank you.

[Truly Lost]

If you keep breaking up, obviously there is a lot of distrust. Something is very wrong with this picture. It isn't working for either of you. Maybe he has finally had it. Its the last straw. Who wants to keep going through heartache? You've got to have real time apart....and I mean a long time. This will help you assess if he is really the one for you. If you have him around, you won't be able to meet someone else of quality. Maybe he is thinking the same thing. I would get sick of constantly breaking up as a, weak, means to work out our your differences. I'm sure he thinks you don't really want to lose him. He also has been conditioned now to think that you will be on the side lines waiting for him to come back or vice versa. Its pathetic. Sorry to be blunt. Some relationships just aren't meant to work.

[colosseum]

Yeah. Been on the ass end of that myself; the guy's end, as in what your bf/ex is dealing with.

 

Break = break up. Neither of you wants to go through that drama again, right? That's probably what your boy is thinking.