neverfree Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 high just wanted to introduce my self as this is my first post. my name is Alex and I'm here for a little support. me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up two months ago, and now I'm feeling the pain of losing her. i feel like i'm gonna go crazy. i feel like she just gave up on me cause were different. i really have no friends nor the family to turn to for support. this really sucks as she was my first serious girlfriend. any advice on how to deal with this pain?
Truly Lost Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Unfortunately, there really isn't much advice I can give except to stay busy, hang out with friends (preferably ones that aren't in a relationship with someone) and don't contact your ex. This is really all you can do to heal your brokenheart quicker. Its an emotion that takes time to get over. But you will. You are the only one that has control over how quickly you will allow that to happen. I saw my ex recently and seeing him again after a month rehashed all the hurt I had gone through. It was like we broke up all over again. I wasn't completely over him, but I was just starting to feel better, then I see him again. It took me a week to get back to where I was before our meeting. Do yourself a favor and don't contact her. But I wanted to know if she broke up with you or did you break up with her? If she broke up with you, then definately don't call her, email, txt. If you broke up with her, then you will have to be the one to grovel to get her back.
Author neverfree Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 thanks for the reply. unfortunately i really dont have friends. we had agreed to go our separate ways. but after a while, we tried to give it a shot. i have a lot going on in my life so i don't have a clear head. we got into a small disagreement one night and i ended up kicking her out of my house. i really regret that. time passed on and i manned up and apologized to her and try to get things going. she accepted my apology but she said she had moved on and wants nothing to do with me. she wants to concentrate on school and work. i miss her so much. but i feel like she just gave up on us or being with me in general. i feel like shes laughing the world away and I'm here drowning in my sorrow.
Author neverfree Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 What do you mean "We're different" - ? in her world, everyone is happy and nothing bad occurs, and I'm, well , the opposite
Geishawhelk Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 So you're depressive? is this an officially diagnosed thing (if at all! I'm jumping to conclusions here!) or is it something characteristic of you that you've not considered before? I mean really.... do you have a depressive condition like bi-polar?
Author neverfree Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 well if your gonna put me on the spot then yes. Ive been through some things in life that you could say yes can cause depression.
Geishawhelk Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Ok. Now we're getting somewhere. I'm not prying and really we don't need to know - but - have you had counselling, have you been diagnosed as depressed and have you been prescribed medication that you're taking - or not taking?
Author neverfree Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 Ok. Now we're getting somewhere. I'm not prying and really we don't need to know - but - have you had counselling, have you been diagnosed as depressed and have you been prescribed medication that you're taking - or not taking? ok no offense but what does this have to do with my break up? im just looking for advise on how to deal with the situation. i dont feel comfortable talking about this on the Internet.
Honest2Bob Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 3 years is a long time... so it's going to take a long time to get over it. another point is that since you all were dating for so long, how long was she thinking about breaking it off? No one would break a relationship of 3 years on a whim, it takes time to review the reasons and make sure that the decision is what is wanted. If she broke up with you for reasons, can you change those reasons... If you can't remember that time heals. Get a hobby.. it's a great way to make friends. Sharing an interest is a great segway into a relationship.
Author neverfree Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 3 years is a long time... so it's going to take a long time to get over it. another point is that since you all were dating for so long, how long was she thinking about breaking it off? No one would break a relationship of 3 years on a whim, it takes time to review the reasons and make sure that the decision is what is wanted. If she broke up with you for reasons, can you change those reasons... If you can't remember that time heals. Get a hobby.. it's a great way to make friends. Sharing an interest is a great segway into a relationship. we just kept breaking up over and over. guess she finally got tired of it. thanks for the advise people. ill try and distract myself by doing something different for a change.
Geishawhelk Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 ok no offense but what does this have to do with my break up? im just looking for advise on how to deal with the situation. i dont feel comfortable talking about this on the Internet. You're the one who came in with the explanation that you were different, and that: "in her world, everyone is happy and nothing bad occurs, and I'm, well , the opposite".... I took this to mean that because of the disparities in your attitudes and emotional outlook, it was something you were considering as an issue worth addressing. That's what it's got to do with your break-up. If you don't consider it an important factor in how you interact with your girlfriends, then forget I mentioned it. But I would think it should be of primary consideration.....
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