Never even had one girl interested or ask me out before?

[Brady_to_Moss]

Does this seem odd to anyone? I am 20 and was thinking about it the other day. I have never ever gotten a comment from a girl that was sexual in anyway or even have never found out if anyone actually ever like me. I have a lot of friends and go out a lot here in college. I talk to girls now and then at least a few times a day but just no one has ever said anything to me or been interested in me. I dont stay in my room all day. I go out and try to find stuff to do eaither at the gym or playin ball. On the other had my other roommate doesnt need to do anything at all. All the girls come to him and ask him out. I have never even had one do this. I am not bad looking, tall and have good style. Ill have a few drinks and go to a party or 2 on the weekends.

 

Even in high school it was the same way. Like girls look right through me.

[fral945]

No, doesn't seem that odd. I think when I was 20 I had maybe 1 or 2 girls that ever asked me out. I can still count on one (or maybe two) hands the number of times girls have asked me out or initiated.

 

Additionally, it is extremely rare for a woman to comment sexually about a man in passing (although a waitress at a restaurant did call me a "pretty man" yesterday ). Women are almost never that straightforward (unless they are very drunk or an older cougar on the prowl).

 

I find it hard to believe you've never had a girl interested in you. I'm sure you've had women interested, you probably just didn't recognize their subtle cues. When I think back to when I was your age, there were so many opportunities I missed out on just because of how ignorant I was about the signals women give off.

 

When you go to parties, do you talk to girls? Do they talk to you?

[Lights]

I don't know whether it's normal or odd, but I can say you're not alone. I'm way too close to 30 and I'm still in that situation.

 

It's sickening how even a dirt-simple "Mind if I join you?" or "Hi. I'd like to meet you..." just doesn't happen unless I'm the one saying it. The double standard is quite repellent; that degree of cowardice/social ineptitude/backwardness would get me ignored or vilified if I were to exhibit it, but somehow it's all well and good when the women in my culture exhibit it.

 

I've ranted about this here before, but I haven't yet been able to change the situation.

[moman]

Grow a sack and start talking to women.

 

the best way to get a woman to talk to you is non-verbal communication; make eye contact, act confident but disinterested.