jasminetea Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I'm sorry to say I'm with Justin on this. But, either way, it sounds as though you've got too much going on to date someone regularly whatever she thought of you
moman Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Any girl who is going to back-stop a date with another engagement is just not that interested. You went out Wednesday. I'd call Sunday and arrange a meeting for 'sometime' next week, call her Wednesday and tell her you can go out Thursday. Every girl on here will tell you the like follow up phone calls, txts the day after, etc, but the truth is they will give it up to a guy who's being a total jackass if he creates sexual tension.
northstar1 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Any girl who is going to back-stop a date with another engagement is just not that interested. You went out Wednesday. I'd call Sunday and arrange a meeting for 'sometime' next week, call her Wednesday and tell her you can go out Thursday. Every girl on here will tell you the like follow up phone calls, txts the day after, etc, but the truth is they will give it up to a guy who's being a total jackass if he creates sexual tension. Not necessarily true. It was a first date. Most people I know don't necessarily block off their entire night for a first date. That is not an indication of interest on date 1. Now, if she does it on the next few dates, then yes, she's not all that interested.
D-Lish Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Please don't wait until Monday to text or call to say you had a good time... That's too long a time to wait. If I go out with someone and don't hear from them for 5 days- I have already mentally moved on. As I said- don't overthink the pre-planned evening she had going on. People do this simply because they don't know what to expect out of a first date. I'd say it's more pressure to spend an entire evening together on a first date rather than a couple hours. Once she had told you she had plans later- she had to follow through. What's wrong with meeting after 9pm at night? I usually don't meet anyone for a date before 9....You can do a late movie after 9pm.
Author Viking Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Send her a nice message, saying thank you for a nice time, I really enjoyed it and hoped you did to. She will appreciate that and it will show that you like her. Also just go for it and ask her if she wants to meet up again. That is the only way which you will find out. You said that she said see you Monday. That sounds like she wants to see you again. Just go for it. It will all be fine. Good Luck Well, we don't really have a choice in the matter, we've got class together. I will get around to calling her, I have to work and she has class, so after work when we're on the road down south for lacrosse is when I'll call her. I'm sorry to say I'm with Justin on this. But, either way, it sounds as though you've got too much going on to date someone regularly whatever she thought of you Yes, I do have a lot going on, but I'm willing to give it a shot. Any girl who is going to back-stop a date with another engagement is just not that interested. You went out Wednesday. I'd call Sunday and arrange a meeting for 'sometime' next week, call her Wednesday and tell her you can go out Thursday. Every girl on here will tell you the like follow up phone calls, txts the day after, etc, but the truth is they will give it up to a guy who's being a total jackass if he creates sexual tension. I didn't text or call the day after just because that is too typical and in my opinion, often seen as desperate. I didn't want to be a total jackass either because that's just not who I am. How would someone create sexual tension with someone who is, as it seems, pretty religious, a little shy and reserved? I'm not looking for a quick lay and then on to the next girl, I'm looking to date someone and get to know them. Not necessarily true. It was a first date. Most people I know don't necessarily block off their entire night for a first date. That is not an indication of interest on date 1. Now, if she does it on the next few dates, then yes, she's not all that interested. That's what I was told, that to act as kind of a safety net, even if things are going well, they'll have something "to do" so that they feel more comfortable going out with someone that they barely know. Please don't wait until Monday to text or call to say you had a good time... That's too long a time to wait. If I go out with someone and don't hear from them for 5 days- I have already mentally moved on. As I said- don't overthink the pre-planned evening she had going on. People do this simply because they don't know what to expect out of a first date. I'd say it's more pressure to spend an entire evening together on a first date rather than a couple hours. Once she had told you she had plans later- she had to follow through. What's wrong with meeting after 9pm at night? I usually don't meet anyone for a date before 9....You can do a late movie after 9pm. I won't wait that long. Its just working up the guts/nerves to call her and ask her out again. I think two days is fine as far as that is concerned. I tend to overthink a lot of things, and then just kind of bust my own balls so to speak. As far as meeting after 9PM goes, I have no idea. I usually am a night owl, so I like the night, however, she isn't 21 yet, so it limits the activities (no bars/dancing etc) we can do. And being that its a rather small town, it is already hard enough to find a lot of things to do at night aside from dinner, movies, bowling, ice skating and a few other options.
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