jadelil25 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Be honest! What would you feel if your partner sat down and spoke to you about honesty in a relationship. Would this make you feel that there is no trust from your partner/push you away? Or would you be pleased that your partner has opened up to you? I have been cheated on in the past and lied to. This has made me a bit insecure and has got me down/made me depressed. My current boyfriend knows about this. I sat down and talked to him about it and said that I feel honesty is important and I want him to be honest no matter what. I said that I want him to tell me if he is un happy, feels that things are not working out or if I have done something that has upset him/annoyed him. I said that I dont like lies, I feel communication is important and that I want him to be happy/make him happy. I said to him that his happiness should come 1st. Am I wrong for having a conversation like this?
gettingonwithlife Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Let's see.... I just currently did the exact same thing with the guy that I am seeing. So as far as I can see, you did the right thing. It can never be a bad thing to let ur partner know how u are feeling and honesty is definitely very important in a relationship. I personally don't see how it should push him away, but everyone is different in the way that they perceive things. But no matter what happens you definitely gave it ur best shot at being open and upfront with him.... That's all you can do!!! Wishing you the best of luck!!!
prettybaby Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 It would only push him away if it's someone you've only been seeing for like a month or something lol! If it's already a well established relationship, then I don't see any problem with that kind of conversation.
burningashes Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 No, there's nothing wrong with letting your SO know that you value honesty no matter what. I told my ex when we first started dating that if he ever had any issue with the relationship, to tell me right away.
IrishCarBomb Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 If it were at the early stages of the relationship, I'd initially worry about you being too needy, but it certainly wouldn't break the relationship. Once my initial worries subsided, I would reciprocate with my own honesty. Then again, I tend to be honest with women to a fault. I'd rather fully disclose my feelings and face a small immediate negative reaction than let things build up and eventually get out of control.
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