pasted email he sent me - does it sound hopeful even tho hes said we are over?

[NatoPMT]

this is his email....

 

yeah i do darlin, i feel SO much better, and i'm glad you do too....it's worrying about you that's the worst...it's like being in pain or something, i don't mind it myself as i know how bad it is etc. and i can do stuff about it, it's just other people that concerns me...i don't know if that makes sense...anyway.

oh yeah, the little blue light...that's brilliant....and mine is there also....little, and blue, and right there.....all yours.

 

aww i'm so proud of you...and i'm not being patronising, you make me smile.

AND i'm getting jealous of you talking to other men, what game are you on about?

 

oh you, you've just made me feel loads better.

i'm sorry for not having said anything reall yworthwhile, i'm well knackered now

ok lucy, the shippers are coming tomorrrow and i dunno what the fate of the laptop is so this may be the last e-mail from me for a couple of days, i'll be able to msg u from clarkys or something before i go soit's not the end of me for the mo but just in case i don't get in touch for a few days thats why.

so good night sweetheart and i'm thinking of you.

sweet dreams.

 

hes left me, moved to america from london & wants us to have a period of no contact - he says he needs a period of recovery but he's optimistic about us working things out - although hes keeping his options open and cant promise me anything.

 

i just dont know what to think - please advise me

[Tony T]

Not knowing this man or the background of the relationship, it's difficult to interpret an email of this nature. However, it is implied that he had been drinking when he wrote it. I personally wouldn't give it a lot of meaning. I would never, ever allow any person to leave me like that and keep me on a string. The bastard even said he's thinking about you seeing other men. Well, that's just too bad. He left you and he can't expect you to just sit there reading his emails for the next ten years while he's in the US raising hell with women all over. I know you feel pain but treat this like any other break up. Go through the grief process and get over him. There is no reason to allow him to manipulate you now that he's away and has clearly stated in words and actions that he doesn't want to be together right now. There are just too many men out there who would be honored to be by your side and who wouldn't move across the ocean to avoid that.

[NatoPMT]

Thanks Tony, he has said he wont see other women, and i believe him, and he hadnt been drinking, he was in the middle of packing with his mum when he wrote it. he said this isnt like other break ups hes had in that he knows we arent done. i know i know its the same story as everyone else, but what if we are different? what if we are the ones that DO make it? and i do get so far down the line of recovery that i switch off to him, and miss out on the incredible love that we could share should this work out? he wants me to be strong and positive but that i have hurt him - the reason we are here is i refused to commit, kept him at arms length, and he tried so hard to recapture what we had but said he just needed to get away to discover if we are meant to be together, and if we are we will be. but if i continue to believe its over - it will be.

[Fancy]

Move on. If you meant anything at all to him, he wouldn't have put an ocean between you. I don't care what lame excuse he gave you, actions speak louder than words.