TheKingKopite Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Hello, I have just noticed this website after searching around on the net and I need some help from you people. I have been with this girl for nearly 2 years and I am 17 years old and shes 16 years old, I been through alot in my life recently and she knows that and I been treating her pretty badly and putting all my anger out on her as my support worker has told me. I recently dumped her after a arguement and I was extremely mad at her over nothing really and a couple hours after I calmed down I asked her if she get back with me and she replied with "No". It has been 3 weeks and I have nagged her about how much I love her and how much she means to me and I even apologized 50 odd times. I feel horrible .. I have never felt like this before, its the worst pain I have ever felt in the stomach area and I simply just hate it and I want it to go. I think about my ex girlfriend all the time and it has been 3 weeks now and we still talk but she was like my best friend and she was the one I hung with basically everyday and now shes gone I have nobody and I don't go out. I miss her very much and I got told by her best mate that her mum has even asked her about a second chance but she simply just ignored her. She has moved on by seeing a boy and I confronted her about it but she denies it. Her best friend told me he tried kissing her and she kept turning away a few times which I was kinda happy about but kinda sad at the same time that he was trying it on with her .. I have found out today that shes meeting him at his house and from what I read on this website hes basically after "sex" and nothing else and I am pretty mad. What can I do to get her back & before she gets hurt?
GoneButNotForgotten Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 First slow down man. You can't force someone to get back together with you. What will be will be. Back off completely. First, she can't miss you if you are always around. Second, work on improving yourself. Not for her, but for yourself. Ok you got stressed and things got messed up. Work on dealing with stress in non-negative ways. Seeing as how your only 17, trust me life tends not to get less stressful. Improving how you deal with stress and your reactions to it will help you in the long run no matter what happens with this girl. As for how to get her back? There is no surefire method. If you research there are all sorts of books and crap to try and manipulate your way back in. It is not worth it. Time to go NC and work on healing yourself. Yes, it will suck for a while. It does for most of us. As time goes on you will start to heal and feel better about yourself. As this happens one of two outcomes are possible. A) She comes back to you and wants to give it another shot, which you can then either go for it or not depending on how you actually feel about her. B) She doesn't come back and you just keep moving on and life keeps going. It may not be easy, but you have to stay out of her life and make yourself as scarce as possible to her. Also stop talking to her friends and things. If they are your friends too just ask them not to talk about her when you are around. You don't have to be mean about it, just explain to them that you are moving on with your life and that you don't wish to revisit the past at the moment.
Author TheKingKopite Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Its basically impossible to stay away from her though, shes like outside my house nearly everyday and her friends asking me to come out and I allways give in and go out. She keeps being on the phone to that kid shes seeing and her friends even think its wrong to keep doing it infront of me and stuff. I tried everything to get her back and thats all I want & I can't help but check up on her on sites such as bebo, facebook ect ect .. I would go out with my mates more but my mates are allways with there girlfriends or with there school mates and I am just stuck in my house all the time.
Excellent Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I agree with GoneButNotForgotten. Slow down. She knows you want her back, just give her time. And leave her alone. Don't contact her and act needy, it will only push her further away. If you talk to her, just tell her that you love her, and if she wants to get together for a bite to eat or anything like that she's more than welcome to ask. But for now, give her space.
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