Kristine Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Okay I joined match.com in hopes of meeting a special someone. Well the same few guys are looking at my profile for days now. Are they interested or not? If not, why keep checking it? One guy I'm totally not interested in, another I know I winked at and have gotten no response. The third responded to my wink saying he knows he looked at my profile but he's not interested (nice to respond by why not interested, I'm curious). Not that he was a great catch or anything. But feedback is appreciated, and quit looking at my profile then. I don't understand these men. Anyone? Why are they repeatedly looking at my profile and not winking, e-mailing, or saying they're not interested? Makes no sense.
BCCA Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Sometimes, you run accross the same profile more than once and forget that you looked at it. Or they could be re-reading it to try and decide if they should email you. Or they could be bored. There is no rhyme or reason for it. I have women wink at me and then not respond to my email - if you can tell me whats up with that, Id love to hear it haha Thats dating...
carhill Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 IMO, focus on what you're doing rather than analyzing what they're doing. Remember, online dating sites are places to make contact. You're not asking them out on a date. Equal opportunity
Author Kristine Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 They must have met someone else who responded faster to their wink. That's what came to mind on the girl front.
BCCA Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 They must have met someone else who responded faster to their wink. That's what came to mind on the girl front. I've litterally responded the same day. No later than the next day. And I have 3-4 girl friends I run my emails by that gave them the green light, so who knows. Carhill is right, though. We just have to worry about what we do, no telling with others.
bean1 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 You will end up in the crazy house if you concern yourself with things like this for online dating! Go into it with no-zero-zip-nadda expectations! Even on the first few dates. Just be yourself, be happy, and the right one will come to you. Sometimes it takes a while. I am still with my first (and last) online date! We have a family! I went into it with no expectations. Expectations, I think, can come off as needy.
carhill Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Probably worthwhile to read OP's history. I'll leave my advice as is....
clv0116 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Why are they repeatedly looking at my profile and not winking, e-mailing, or saying they're not interested? Makes no sense. They're doing what I'm doing ; hoping the bubbles in your avatar will finally erode away.
zdheat Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 I think there are several reasons. 1) Match.com is a paysite and perhaps these guys aren't paying members and therefore can't contact you. 2) They're using the "shotgun" method of online dating. Guys will go down the list and contact dozens of women everyday in hopes of getting a response. After a few days you forget who's profiles you've looked at in the past and you re-click on ones you've already seen by accident.
Author Kristine Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 The point I'm making is they keep looking, more than 3 times the same guys. The don't know my full history They know what the profile requests to know. That I'm divorced with two children who sometimes live with me. All true and whatever else I've decided to share. No need to be rude. Geez. Not a real picture. Just saw your post zdheat. So that's how guys work. LOL
clv0116 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 No need to be rude. Geez. If you think that was rude maybe they want to avoid a grouchy chick.
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