Peaches & Cream Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Hello Im new here and need to get this off my chest. I am bisexual and have always been open about sex and sexuality. Well after 20 odd years I finally meet my Cousin and his wife. We all click and hit it off - meeting up and having fun. As I am writing a book about sexuality we would openly discuss this and toss ideas around about society and sex. My cousins wife is also bisexual and my cousin stated that she was free to explore that without his participation as he was very supportive. I went on a trip to Vegas & cousins wife & friend met up with me & my partner there. That night we all got drunk & after everyone had gone to their rooms cousins wife starts hitting on me - we end up in the bathroom and we have sex. The next day is awkward but we get through it - we both part ways and after a few txt msgs and getting over the shock of it all - we deal with it and decide to continue this relationship. Just before xmas - her husband finds out - and flips, then calms down and is ok with it. New years - he asks her if she is in love with me - she replies yes but she loves him to so she wont leave him. A few days later he isnt ok and we have to stop. In my relationship it is completley allowed as my partner decided from the start I could have gf - just no boys. So I am free in that regard. Whats wrong with me - she is my cousins wife?? But I want her so much
Athena Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Well every MW is somebody's wife!!! Okay, so she is your COUSINS wife?... and you should 'keep your hands off her' because you are what? Loyal to your cousin? I thought you said you only met your cousin Recently? So no real ties to him, right? Okay, two questions: are you male or female? And when exactly was the trip to Vegas? Recently? I mean, how on earth can the cousin's wife be in love with you in such a short time period? Did you both see each other much after the trip? How did the affair get emotional?
Geishawhelk Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Bisexual, heterosexual, homosexual - making out with anyone outside of a relationship is cheating, and finally, her husband has said he's not ok with it. Distance yourself. This is unfair, and is going to cause heartache. You need to give yourselves time to get over this, and never do it again - because it would be behind your cousin's back. Never with his approval. He was an idiot, frankly, to 'allow' it in the first place. And you two were idiots to take him up on that! It wouldn't be so bad normally - but you're related to him! That's overstepping the mark and trespassing over boundaries you really should never have crossed. The fact that there's blood relation should have been a huge no-no right from the word go. Foolish. Remain detached and don't contact anyone, unless it's absolutely necessary. And right now, I don't see how anything could, or should be.
Author Peaches & Cream Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 I am a woman Met Cousin in August 08 Spent lots of time with Cousines wife (she came to visit) Lots of email txts etc Vegas was november I dont know I mean it all just happened - and I am into her for sure - she is incredible - and he was happy for her to be with any girl she wanted - until it turned out to me - but we both feel that has more to do with his lack of participation than family tie. If there is a hell Im going
Geishawhelk Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I dont know I mean it all just happened - Ok, hold it right there. This is bullshxt. Nothing 'just happens'. Things happen because people want them to happen. It happened because there was a choice to be made and you all made the wrong one, frankly. But it didn't 'just happen'. So quit that right now. and I am into her for sure - she is incredible - and he was happy for her to be with any girl she wanted - until it turned out to me - but we both feel that has more to do with his lack of participation than family tie. The reason for him objecting is completely irrelevant. In all probability it does come down to jealousy, yes. But that's understandable. And if you're both bi-sexual, why shouldn't he have participated? You guys, (if you decided to block his participation somehow) had no right to do so...... This is just a mess. Forget it ok, leave it alone, and walk away from it. Do something sensible here. Choices, consequences. Remember? If there is a hell Im going Nope. You're there already. And it's utterly self-made.
Author Peaches & Cream Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Ok, hold it right there. This is bullshxt. Nothing 'just happens'. Things happen because people want them to happen. It happened because there was a choice to be made and you all made the wrong one, frankly. But it didn't 'just happen'. So quit that right now. The reason for him objecting is completely irrelevant. In all probability it does come down to jealousy, yes. But that's understandable. And if you're both bi-sexual, why shouldn't he have participated? You guys, (if you decided to block his participation somehow) had no right to do so...... This is just a mess. Forget it ok, leave it alone, and walk away from it. Do something sensible here. Choices, consequences. Remember? Nope. You're there already. And it's utterly self-made. Granted. I did want it to happen. Participation from him would be wrong - he is a blood relation - she is not It is a mess - no question - and we went NC for a while - which came to a head yesterday with her expressing her unhappiness with that - and me being unhappy with it too...I know I know leave it alone
Athena Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Put it down to research for your new book....
bentnotbroken Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Family:sick: That's so, so stereotypically Deliverance.
quankanne Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Participation from him would be wrong - he is a blood relation - she is not BINGO! you broke an unstated rule by screwing a family member ... even if that person is only related through marriage. It's something you just don't do, because there's an implied trust that family isn't going to screw you over.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 That night we all got drunk & after everyone had gone to their rooms cousins wife starts hitting on me - we end up in the bathroom and we have sex. he asks her if she is in love with me - she replies yes After one sexual encounter ? In a bathroom ? Being bisexual, you have an awfully big pond to fish in. I'd think you could lay off your cousin's wife - and any other family members, either blood or related - and still find plenty of playmates... Mr. Lucky
Geishawhelk Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Granted. I did want it to happen. Participation from him would be wrong - he is a blood relation - she is not BullshXt. Cousins can marry, you know. Did you know? They can. http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelicenses/a/cousin.htm It is a mess - no question - and we went NC for a while - which came to a head yesterday with her expressing her unhappiness with that - and me being unhappy with it too...I know I know leave it alone Yup. You're answering your own questions here. Good going. Now let the actions suit the words......
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