LovieDove24 Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I am kinda disgusted by a certain number of male posters who find it funny to spew disrespectful things about women. We're crazy, slutty, pms'ers apparantly who deserve to be slandered. I'm sorry if you werent hugged by your mother enough as a child. I'm sorry that you choose to date icky girls. But realize that this is YOUR problem, not women's. Of course there are many many more wonderful male posters out here than the bad ones. The community vibe here is the reason I keep coming back. But for those of you I'm talking about you need to stop because I'm reporting the next person I see who does it.
Trialbyfire Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I've used this analogy in a different way but imagine LS as such: Tom and Jerry perpetually chasing each other with frying pans, bashing the other over the head.
fishtaco Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I've used this analogy in a different way but imagine LS as such: Tom and Jerry perpetually chasing each other with frying pans, bashing the other over the head. Pretty much. It's a gender war. Both sides are throwing punches. It's the internet. This forum is actually more coherent than many other ones.
Trialbyfire Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Pretty much. It's a gender war. Both sides are throwing punches. It's the internet. This forum is actually more coherent than many other ones. LS wasn't always like this. I find it kind of sad that it's eroded to this point.
Author LovieDove24 Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Very good analogy TBF. I do realize that mud is being slung from both sides it just seems to be a little lopsided lately. And I read about 5 comments in a row that sent me in a frenzy. Ahem, a certain someones description on abortion to be precise...
fishtaco Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Well, there's a lot of angry and hurt people here, sometimes that's me. I think it does a great service even just as a place to vent. Some days I don't even want to touch this forum. It kind of brings me down. But I mean the reason LS exists is because of all the dating drama that can never be avoided. So this place can't really be a happy place.
Trialbyfire Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I don't disagree that LS can never be Disneyland but it used to be more of a balanced place, rather than the gender war battleground full of misogyny.
movingonandon Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Woogle, where are thou? I don't see many instances of actual disrespect. Sure, crass and forsefully expressed opitions happen here all the time, but that's no disrespect, that's sentiments/claims stripped down from PC crap, which Internet comunication allows for easily. The same person who poseted something grossly unsophisticated can, in another post, write something articulate. (Of course, there is Taramere who's always articulate, even in the face of brutal adversity ). I don't know whose view of abortion you're referring to, but I cannot see how any view on abortion could be disrespectful. Now if you're saying that somebody is disrespecting you whenever they're disagreeing with your opinion, then it's time to do some more growing up, and I mean no disrespect .
tanbark813 Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 A lot of people fall into the "You disagree with me therefore you're stupid" mindset trap.
movingonandon Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Also, do you seriously believe that people (men or women) get off on being negative just for the sake of it? Except for a limited number of clinical cases, that's simply not true. But, many are here because of unpleasant past or current experiences, sometimes to see their fears and conclusions to be reinforced. But, thankfully, not always. So, as long as different perspectives keep flowing (even if rudely expressed), it's all good workaday distraction .
zhsoj Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Some time ago, though not that long ago, I made a comment about how women are crazy. It was made in jest and I think the context made that clear. If it was however misinterpreted as being serious then I'll clear that up right now by saying I have nothing but the utmost respect for the women in my life. Something that's important to remember, especially on a public forum: tolerance. It's hard enough to understand other people in our daily lives. It's so easy to misrepresent yourself or be misunderstood that you just have to accept it. At best be cognizant of it whenever you post something. Even the best storytellers have trouble conveying what they intend through text though.
BCCA Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I try and keep in mind that a lot of these stories hit pretty close to home with people, and trigger strong emotions. You cant blame them for having a strong point of view after what they've been through. Tolerance is key, no matter hard it can be sometimes.
Woggle Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Like women are any better on here. I see just as much misandry if not more than misogyny. I thought this was supposed to be a board where we can speak honestly about our relationship experiences so why are men wrong for speaking our feelings? Do you ever check the threads to see what many men on here are going through and why they might be bitter?
fishtaco Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Chicken and egg. I'm a guy, so my how-I-became-a-villain story involves "women made me this way". But I'm sure women would have a similar story. So she said it's because of him, and he said it's because of her and it goes all the way back to when we were all amoebae swimming around in primordial ocean soup... like 6000 years ago or something. Baggage. Everyone has them.
sand26 Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I love women, I think they are the best. I just hate that so many women feel the need to live up to societies ideas of what a "fulfilled woman" is. All these movies about women needing MR right and every day on yahoo there is another article on the main page about "getting your man to commit." I think women do NOT NEED MEN and should be more independent. Society tells you that the man should do certain things or else you are being disrespected, so many women adopt these ideas even if they don't apply. It is a sad state of affairs, I love people for who they are - not for what they do for me, to me, or how they "treat" me. That is just co-dependent BS. Women are awesome, they are just as confused as men and we have society, religion and the media to blame for these rifts. peace the mfk
Woggle Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Exactly, but if we let one man or one woman (or even a few of them) turn is into man or woman haters, then who is the one hurt the most? Ourselves. One woman is one thing but when I start seeing the same pattern over and over again with women I can't ignore it. That being said I don't hate women but society encourages this behavior in them and men need to know how to keep from becoming another victim.
kashmir Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Ahem, a certain someones description on abortion to be precise... You can refer to me by name...I know you mean me. Just like those aborted fetuses, I wasn't born yesterday ya know.
carhill Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I'm sorry if you weren't hugged by your mother enough as a child. Me too. I've been making up for it ever since Much healthier to be a lover than a hater.
Citizen Erased Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 This place is ridiculously bitchy, it is disgusting. What used to be banter is now constant cat fights.
carhill Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Well, you know how men rile the women up and then they start in on each other...
Trialbyfire Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Like this carhill? -------------------------------- When I got home last night, my wife demanded that I take her someplace expensive.... So, I took her to a gas station..... And that's how the fight began.... ------------------------
Citizen Erased Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Like this carhill? -------------------------------- When I got home last night, my wife demanded that I take her someplace expensive.... So, I took her to a gas station..... And that's how the fight began.... ------------------------ :lmao:
BCCA Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Like this carhill? -------------------------------- When I got home last night, my wife demanded that I take her someplace expensive.... So, I took her to a gas station..... And that's how the fight began.... ------------------------ ROFL!!! So, nachos from the Chevron is NOT considered eating out? Wow, total mind-blow...
anne1707 Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 As a woman on LS, I have found that some of the men can post totally mysoginistic posts (as can some of the women when being misandristic) but when it comes to down right lets make it personal, bitchiness.... the women have it every time.
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