Sonitas Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 The power of hindsight, what a power that would be...... Have not posted or even logged in for a long time, my husband and I separated for the second time this past fall and what an eye opener I have had over these past few months. How badly did he really want our marriage to work? We sold our home in September, he moved out of our rental November...begging for me to give us another chance, that he sees now that he just resorted back to his old ways and will try harder this time....I didn't have it in me to give it another try, we have been together since I was 14, we have two great kids and I know no other, I was terrified but all the love I had to give was drained. .......even during all the pleading he managed to move on quite quickly.......He took his new girlfriend to a music concert getaway the first week of December, a bit of a shock to me....something he NEVER did for me....I had to try and answer my childrens questions as to why daddy was bringing gifts from Santa to this other family on Christmas eve...all the while he was telling me that he only slept with her because she seduced him and took advantage of him in such a fragile state, and he was still trying to get into my bed....a whole bunch of other drama has occured with him involving our children in this relationship too soon....and now this morning he is off to Vegas with her & phones me to ask to use my suitcase.....yes, I will leave it by the door..... A word to men out there who are going thru a separation.....do you really want your wife back?? This is your opportunity to show her the man that you can really be, if it is still not what she wants, then her loss, you cannot go wrong by being yourself, taking good care of yourself & your family..... Giving her the opportunity to take another look at what you are bringing to the marriage and what type of future she will have with you. If he hadnt' moved on so quickly maybe there would have been a glimpse of hope. With every move he has made it just pushed me further to do the same. Now I am just seeing how much better off I will be and what I have been missing in my life for so long.....
TrustInYourself Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 You told him you were done and out of love and now you chastise him for finding someone new?
Author Sonitas Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 I think it is wonderful that he has found someone new, good on him, she is 8 years younger than me, hot, slim.....no problem with that.....I chastise him for coming to me and asking to get into my bed after he has been with her, telling me how much better I am then her...in full detail I need not to disclose....being with her and then coming to me and telling me how he would leave her instantly for me if I change my mind or if I want to give things another chance. I feel for her, how would she feel if she knew he was saying these things to me....especially when he tells me that she is falling in love with him.......I just see him in a diferent light.
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