kashmir Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 There's a girl I've been eying for a week or two. I've talked to her a bit as well. Whenever we cross eyes we both smile at each other. I'm pretty sure she's into me, but like me, she's shy. I also get the feeling that she isn't that experienced with guys, so if she is indeed into me she might be a bit nervous. I'd normally have no problem with this, but I never seem to get a chance to talk to her alone...only on Fridays. I've learned to talk to a girl pretty well when I'm alone with one. I'm fine and can ask them out with no problem. This girl is almost always with a group of friends, though. I've approached the group and talked to them all before, but I don't know how to only ask her out. It seems like it would offend the friends if I singled her out. As you can understand, I don't have much desire to have dinner or hang out with her and her friends...just her. Any suggestions? I see her 4 days a week, and like I said on Friday I might get a chance to walk with her alone. That's all I need really, just a few minutes alone with her, but when you throw the friends in it throws me off.
carhill Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Another option is to disconnect your desire and just ask her out in front of her friends and take in the group response. Often, things aren't as obvious as they might seem. Because you have focused on her, you've fogged out the rest of the group. Options are a good thing at your age
Author kashmir Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Another option is to disconnect your desire and just ask her out in front of her friends and take in the group response. Often, things aren't as obvious as they might seem. Because you have focused on her, you've fogged out the rest of the group. Options are a good thing at your age So you're suggesting that it could be someone else in the group that has an interest for me? Or that someone else CAN develop an interest if I see the whole group and not just her? I'd normally agree with that, but, to put it bluntly, I've seen her friends and I can't see anything happening between them and I - aka, she's the pretty one in the group. From talking with them a few times, also, I seem to connect well to her but not any of her friends, so it's both a thing of looks and personality. In a lot of cases I'd invite the whole group to hang out with me. I just want to see her, though. I want to be able to spend some free time with her just talking one on one. I'd feel a lot more comfortable and open in that situation.
carhill Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Pick the most outgoing of the group and ask her out
Author kashmir Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 I'm asking out the one I want to ask out, not the others.
carhill Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 OK, do that Glad to see you're a man. See, I don't think like a man
Author kashmir Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Damn Carhill, you're always confusing me, but I feel like the confusion somehow leads me to the right path.
carhill Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Did you ever see "A Beautiful Mind"? If so, pay particular attention to the segments leading to the impetus of game theory. Interesting stuff. Sometimes the desired path is the less than obvious one
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