Gosse Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Hey, first post! Sorry for the length.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]There was a girl I met through on-line dating last spring, I thought we hit it off fairly well. We got together close to a dozen times over a period of almost a few months. There were some possible red flags, phone tag, a few dates she canceled, but a lot of the time she was asking me out. I had thought that she gave me the green light and that it would turn into something. She went away on vacation during the summer, and told me when she would be back which would be a 2 week period, it ended up being longer and she didn't bother to tell me which I guess is her business. Anyway, when she came home, things were different, she seemed indifferent, which made me kind of insecure I guess, and before I knew it things were fizzling out. I made one more attempt at getting the ball rolling in an email. In the e-mail I asked where I stood with her, she made some excuses about why she did not contact me, though I believe they were legit. She told me that when some issues she was having sub-sided, she really wanted to get together. I wrote back telling her to call me at that time.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I never heard from her again.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Sometime later I heard she was back on the dating scene, that’s her business.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Flash to today, which would be about 6 months since I heard from her, I bumped into her at the mall, I was leaving a store and saw her, but I didn't really recognize her, and while I was looking at her as I passed I think I gave her a rather nasty look, she had an odd look on her face as well, but nothing nasty, as I left the store I realized who it was, but for some reason I couldn’t make myself turn around, not sure what I would have said anyway …..”Hey, you want your DVD back?” was the best I could come up with.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]So, my questions are, did I handle this poorly? Should I have been polite? Should I have looked at it as an opportunity and chatted her up? Or, considering she blew me off, did I do the right thing even though a dirty look was not what I intended?[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I guess I feel bad, because I really liked her, from some discussions I had with her while I was loosely seeing her, I got the feeling that she had some issues that I would assume would be difficult to deal with.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I guess it would be silly to drop her a line and apologize huh?[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Thoughts?[/sIZE][/FONT]
Frankasy Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 So basically you've never met and worry about this? Judging from your post, it looks as if you're looking to have an e-relationship with her instead of a normal one. I mean you've met over the internet, I don't know if you've met her or not, 6 months of NC, you see her in the mall, don't realize that it was her and give her a mean look. Basically what I'm trying to say is this: you've met her online, she avoided you, wasn't very(In fact she wasn't at all) correct with you, 6 months of NC and all of a sudden you see her at the mall, big deal. You two have never been together as a couple, pretty sure that she's never been to your house or you've been to hers, your friends and family don't know about her. Dude just barry her(Meaning forget that she existed), in fact you did 6 months ago but all of a sudden you choose to put her back in your life. Not worth it. Just move one.
Author Gosse Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Oh, sorry, my post is kind of a mess. We actually went out several times, I had been to her house and she had been to mine, on-line dating was how we originally met. I met her daughter as well which was possibly why I thought it was maybe going somewhere. I got mixed reactions about this from friends and family which is probably why I'm asking some un-biased folks. Thanks
Author Gosse Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Also, I don't necessarily want to bring her back in, that would be up to her set around different circumstances. Just from the things she told me, it sounded like she might have been having a rough time and I don't want to come across as a bitter guy.
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