uptown Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I had my first post here 2.5 months ago, it was after my breakup early December, and I started NC. It's been a very difficult time for me because things had been fine until one day a conflict came up, and he left without much explanation. During my NC period I have tried everything to make sense of it all and repeatedly told myself that he didn't care much about me, he was a heartless jerk, it wasn't meant to be...etc. all sorts of things that could make myself let go. Like many of you here, I cried into sleep every night and I have been trying so hard just to get through every day. 2.5 months after I was still obsessed and couldn't accept that the relationship had to come to an end. Finally I broke down and visited him Saturday night, he turned me away at the door (he never answered any of my calls). The incident pulled me back to day 1, and it looked like he has moved on and found someone else (I saw the TV light in his living room and he said it wasn't a good time to talk...I assumed someone else was there). So I totally lost it. I went home and emailed him about how much I miss him and I was sad to see what we had together was so easily replaced. At that point I was pretty much crushed and lost the hope of a second chance. I just wanted to let it all out. Two days later I got an email from him wanting to talk. So he was over and we talked as if we were just old friends wanting to catch up, nothing about our relationship. Then he said there was something that he thought I should know about...he said that he had to stop seeing me because of his job . His work has been checking on me (I am not a US citizen) but it's all fine now. He said he cares about me and has missed me a lot as well, and he thanked me for being persistent and staying put. I know this sounds crazy and unbelievable. 78 days of tears...I am so confused and have a hard time believing it, so I think I am just going to take it slow and see what happens. There are definitely issues and conflicts need to be addressed in the relationship. But this is my NC story...
Juno Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 hmm...that's the most unusual nc story I have ever heard. hmm...sounds like a crock of sh*t on his part. I can't believe he had the nerve to form the words to tell you that story. continue to cry yourself to sleep and move on instead of letting him string you along like this. sorry
BCCA Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 His work has been checking on me You know, I've heard some pretty bad BS excuses in my day, but this one probably takes the cake. I assume that his work was also at his house that night you stopped by, right? Why in the world would his company be checking into one of its employees girlfriends unless there was a serious crime committed? Companies arent looking to waste money right now, and that would be a complete and utter waste of their resources. Checking on you for what? Does he work for INS? Listen, he lied. Thats total crap, not even a shred of it is believable. It makes no sense that his work would check on you. He's playing you, dont let it go on. Stay NC.
Cookie Puss Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 I'm going to agree, there's something not right about that story. You might wonder why he told it and what his intentions are. But it's probably best to move on.
Author uptown Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 I know things don't quite add up...and the story is so out there. And no, he doesn't work for the INS, he is an FBI agent (I have seen his badge, met his family and friends...etc, so I don't think he lies about his job). There is a part of me that has doubts as well...but mostly I am confused. I am going to clarify with him regarding the details and see if everything makes sense. But thanks everyone's input, I will be very careful.
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