Juno Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 ....are the "Debil" or if you are from up north the "Devil" when it comes to relationships. This may have been debated before, but I have notice a trend with Facebook/Myspace stalking. I have a friend...40 something guy (not a reflection of my age:rolleyes:) who over the couse of this past year has gotten his panties all up in a bunch each time he broke up with someone because of what was or was not posted on his ex's Facebook/Myspace. He averaged I think about 5 relationships last year, each time the entry reflected on these sites was more devastating than the actual breakup. For weeks he would stalk these pages to see what has change and if there were some sort of secret message he needed to decode. Analazing the order/placement of friends as they are listed on the page. As if there wasn't enough to fret over. ...end of mini rant.
LostLamb Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I was blocked and deleted the day my love left me. Maybe everyone else should do the same until the dust settles? You know you'll only obsess over their page if you have access. I don't use FB anymore
sad_panda Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I haven't been checking my ex's Facebook profile for about two weeks now. I'm so proud of myself. Yes it is the devil. I was stupid enough to check his profile for about a month after the break up. I had to endure reading his status messages progress from "feeling miserable about what happened" to "just had the best night of my life thanks to you." It was awful! I also had to see my ex send hugs and kisses via Super Poke to his new girl. Who could've thought a virtual hug and a kiss could drive me crazy like that. You know what was worst? It was when my ex changed his status from 'in a relationship' to 'single.' A million people left comments to the status change, and not just in his profile, but mine too. Only a few hours after our split, he already changed his status, and even had the nerve to reply "I just broke up with my long-term girlfriend but I'm perfectly okay and happy. :D" to one of the people who asked him what happened. Yes he used a maddeningly grinning face, and during that time I couldn't even turn up the corners of my lips into a small close-lipped smile. I deleted my ex, his family, and friends from my friends list. I also made my profile friends-only.
Rollercoasterr Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 My ex has created and deleted about 7 profiles since we've been broken up. He also used to try and figure out if my profile song was about him or not, and then every time I'd post something new he'd call me and ask me about it. He's crazy as a loon.
tbaby82 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I don't believe in in that kind of stuff anymore. Myspace and all these other internet meeting sites are made to get people in trouble i think.
RouRou Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 When I break up with someone, I block that person from my life entirly, until I know Im 100% over it. Facebook stalking is no way to get over an ex.
Author Juno Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 I hear stories like this all the time. And I think to myself, it's a crazy world we live in. It's bad enough to let our own imagination run wild, but to allow something that is posted in cyber space drive us nuts...well...lawd help us all. I have another friend, who called me in tears because her ex of 1 year was receiving and responding to provocative messages on his myspace. It took 3 hours out of my day to calm her down (and yes as a friend I would do it again). But it dosen't take a rocket scientist....stay the f*ck off of his myspace page and you won't have these problems. Forgive me if my rant just got alittle explosive, but this is one of the things I don't understand about today's relationship. There is such a quick and easy fix IMO. Truely they are the "debil."
Author Juno Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 I don't believe in in that kind of stuff anymore. Myspace and all these other internet meeting sites are made to get people in trouble i think. Totally agree. Thank you!
Joker77 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 The night my ex broke up with me, I deleted the myspace page I had. I checked on her status one time within the first week. After that, I never checked again and I refuse to again in the future. It just opens up a pandora's box.
sad_panda Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 And oh another thought...if your ex's profile is public, there's a chance that they might be thinking that maybe you'll look...and if you indeed look, they win! Let this be one battle that you can win. It's hard at the beginning but you'll get used to not knowing what they're up to. Remember that whatever is posted in our exes' profiles may or may not be the truth, and there's no way to tell.
Rollercoasterr Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I had mine private for a while, but after he kept going over to friends houses that were on my myspace list and viewing my page STILL, I just gave up and made it public again. I mean really...we went to high school together so my friends are his friends and I'm not giving them up just so he can't view my myspace. I'm just thinking that if he wants to drive himself crazy by looking at it every day, then he can look all he wants. But he can't expect for there not to be things he's going to be upset about on there.
lonetiger Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 myspace sucks! there was a guy last summer that wanted to date me...well i went on myspace and typed in his email address and BAM...i thought i was totally in a porno shop for a second!! omg...he had like 5 pages of nothing but girls...and the picture comments they left for him were disgusting, i mean down right NASTY. and then i decided to check out his photo's...can you put some clothes on dude! needless to say after i went checking on myspace and found out what kind of sick pig he was, i also checked him out on our court access in our state. let's just say, this dude landed his butt in jail for many occassions of disorderly conducts and had women putting restraing orders on him! real winner there! myspace has just become one big drama space and needless to say...there are nasty ppl who use it to hurt others by what they post...think back a few years ago when a teenage girl killed herself because of being harrassed on MYSPACE. my rant for the day about myspace!!!
janjan Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I haven't been checking my ex's Facebook profile for about two weeks now. I'm so proud of myself. Yes it is the devil. I was stupid enough to check his profile for about a month after the break up. I had to endure reading his status messages progress from "feeling miserable about what happened" to "just had the best night of my life thanks to you." It was awful! I also had to see my ex send hugs and kisses via Super Poke to his new girl. Who could've thought a virtual hug and a kiss could drive me crazy like that. You know what was worst? It was when my ex changed his status from 'in a relationship' to 'single.' A million people left comments to the status change, and not just in his profile, but mine too. Only a few hours after our split, he already changed his status, and even had the nerve to reply "I just broke up with my long-term girlfriend but I'm perfectly okay and happy. :D" to one of the people who asked him what happened. Yes he used a maddeningly grinning face, and during that time I couldn't even turn up the corners of my lips into a small close-lipped smile. I deleted my ex, his family, and friends from my friends list. I also made my profile friends-only. damn, i feel you! lol. delete and block, worked for me.
xxscarredxx Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 OMG!! My gf does the same thing! I finally put an end to it all and deleted her off my page, then made my page only viewable to added friends. She's nuts when it comes to it! I told her once in therapy that I use myspace as a form of entertainment.. and she turns, looks at me and goes.. "Well, I take your myspace seriously." How in the world can you take myspace seriously? Especially someones page that doesn't take it seriously at all? I got so sick of "Who's that girl that posted a comment? Have you met her before? Was that comment directed towards me? Are you all talking about me? What does that mean?" ARRRRRGH! So now she has the luxury of every stranger that falls upon my page.. just seeing it plain. But then she still trips off my status message and title. Good thing she knows NOTHING about my facebook. I don't understand why she thinks I'm always posting something directly to her or someone is talking about her. Our relationship isn't myspace based. But back to your post, yeah, I fully understand you!
Author Juno Posted March 5, 2009 Author Posted March 5, 2009 at the above^^^^^^ Yet it is still so frustrating to hear these stories, to the point I want to scream. I think the addiction to these websites is addicting both to the stalker and poster. I mean really, can they just be let it go. Is it so vital to set up a new page/account when mere blocking is not sucessful? When anyone begins to talks to me about these sites, I look at them crossed eyed, as if they are speaking some foriegn language, which it appears they are. I obvisiously have neither a myspace or facbook web page and don't get their allure.
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