torranceshipman Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Hi guys, I've been on a few dates with a great guy recently - he is good at calling, showing interest, etc...he asked me out on V Day which was pretty cool (and we had a great time). Anyway he asked me out again recently, and I couldnt make it, so I figured, yesterday, why not ask him over for dinner?-as we said we'd do something this week. So I text, he calls straight back, and he said that he'd really like to, but can't because of work, but we'd definitely make sure we get together later this week (we cant meet this weekend though, for a number of reasons). I was like, cool, no problem, but its really ended up bothering me (i.e. that I asked and he cant make it). Which is probably really stupid. Does anyone see any red flags so far, or am I just being a jackass? Lol... I think I just need some LS wisdom here...
BCCA Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 You sound nervous and possibly looking for bad things People have to cancel all the time, and like you said, he asked you out last time and you couldnt make it. Why are the rules different for him? I dont see any red flags here.
prettybaby Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Does anyone see any red flags so far, or am I just being a jackass? you're being a jackass Mind you, it's a normal psychological reaction. You made a move, he couldn't make it; so although not voluntarily, your move wasn't rewarded by an instant date. The mind can be silly sometimes. I don't see any red flags at all.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I go with jackass. Just using your words. Not to say I haven't been there. But really - he called you right back after you asked him out by text. Sounds to me like he wanted to make up for not being able to come over. But yes - I understand if you feel shot down by his denial of the offer. But now's a good time to get over it and remember all the good stuff about him.
collegekid491 Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 No red flags... or at least for me... :s. You texted, he replied without delay with a answer and a compromise. Trust is always the best policy (if you don't trust them, don't date them), once they prove they don't deserve your trust though, kick him to the curb along with that weight set you never use!
Author torranceshipman Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Thanks for talking some sense into me guys-I chilled out a bit, then my new guy called me this evenin, and said he really wanted to see me soon, and what was I doing friday? Cool! Thanks for the kick in the ass about busting out the weights set again too, collegekid (-;
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