janjan Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Hi, Just wanted to ask the guys for some advice on how to deal with a girl "childing" you. Basically I mean from a girl going to acting like she was really into you, interested by the things that you were into, into acting like everything thing you say upsets her, acting like you suddenly can't speak properly, and acting like the same things you're into are now childish to her. I am talking about how you deal with it personally, as to when you are alone and it gets to you, and you feel inferior or like a failure. In this case that I'm talking about, I did No Contact asap (she got with someone else while we were on a supposed break and i found out via facebook status, so i just deleted her instead of calling and giving her the pleasure of giving me 'the talk'). So its not a matter of me letting it drag on w her and trying to get out. I know you can move on and it takes time, but it's been a while and there are still times i feel really upset about being left out. Saying to yourself, well I'm better off, she's a bitch, etc. even though they're true, they don't really help. Even if there's no quick fix, it would help to hear that I'm not alone.
Scorpio13c Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Hey Uqli, Nah, you're not alone. Those are typical actions of a woman that is about to break up with you. They start hating everything you say & do & start petty fights for no reason. They are doing this to justify in their mind that you are a aweful person & thus making dumping you easier. You did the right thing by dumping her first & don't forget that! She was over you before you knew it. To make it easier for you, just know she was having fantasies about the other guy while she was still with you, because that is probably what she was doing. You did the right thing by dumping her. Trust me, she will one day be wondering what a great guy you were & her pride will be bothered that you respected yourself first(dumping her, before she could dump you) & you can pat yourself on the back when you meet someone more deserving of your love! You'll be fine! Scorp
Author janjan Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 They start hating everything you say & do & start petty fights for no reason. They are doing this to justify in their mind that you are a aweful person & thus making dumping you easier. You did the right thing by dumping her first & don't forget that! She was over you before you knew it. To make it easier for you, just know she was having fantasies about the other guy while she was still with you, because that is probably what she was doing. You did the right thing by dumping her. Trust me, she will one day be wondering what a great guy you were & her pride will be bothered that you respected yourself first(dumping her, before she could dump you) & you can pat yourself on the back when you meet someone more deserving of your love! Yes, that's exactly right what you described! Things like ending phone calls over nothing, etc! Yes I am happy knowing that I did right by her in the end, and I gave her what she asked for, but as soon as she showed that there was another guy in the picture, I showed that she stepped out of bounds and simply disappeared. Guys who are reading this, for your own sake, when a girl does something messed up like that, deal with your loneliness and go No Contact. It's hard enough at times, but I can't imagine the horrible state I would be in if I went begging and pleading and explaining. Scorpio, thanks a lot. I am working on meeting new people and hopefully meet a real, worthy woman soon. I expect it to nag me now and then until I do. I do admit that it would make me feel good to see her current relationship fall apart, or that she one day realizes what she gave up, but I also know that I can't waste my life dwelling on those things. If I do, I might be vulnerable if she ever comes back around, and I don't want to fall into a trap again. Hopefully something good happens for me with someone else, and it won't matter whether or not she comes back around. I hope the same for all dealing with something like this too!
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