ATR Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 This morning i looked at my phone to see a missed call left from my ex (i know her number roughly so i know it was her) She left a voice mail... that i could barely make out I think i can hear two people... One of them says "He needs to pick up" or something Then i THINK she says "Comon Adam" (my name) I can't really make out what else was said. Now i deleted her number straight from my call list... but have listened to the voicemail a few times. I don't think i wan't her back. I don't know. I thought she was with someone else? Man this is ****ed up, just as i am pretty much over her If she calls again i will pick up... just to hear what she has to say. But i wont call her asking what she wanted (can't anyway now lol deleted her number ) If she does i seriously don't know what to tell her...
Toodle Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Weird. I can see why it's confusing. Did they sound jokey or stressed at all? Very bizarre phonecall! I'm sure she'll call again if it was important.
mark982 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 if you're just about over her, why on gods green earth would you want to pick up next time?then you start the process all over again.don't even let your phone except her calls.
Toodle Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Maybe it's that weird radar exes have, where they get a signal that we're on the verge of getting over them, so they know to get in touch and reel us in all over again Maybe change your VM welcome message to "Please leave a message if you want me to get back to you". At least you'd be able to assess what the hell this is about!
Author ATR Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 Ah, i just want to know what she wants... i'll talk to her for a couple of minutes. If it still feels awkward i'll just stop...
paperchase Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Ah, i just want to know what she wants... i'll talk to her for a couple of minutes. If it still feels awkward i'll just stop... DON'T do it. I was trying NC to heal and my ex would text, then text again, then say I was mean for not responding, then call. I could not resist the urge to answer the phone. When I answered, the conversation never made me feel good. It always set me back to square one. I wanted to hear "hi baby, I miss you, I want you back and I'll do whatever it takes." Instead, I heard a distant voice that called for some selfish reason and ended the call abruptly leaving me wanting more. When you feel the urge to pick up the phone as it rings I suggest hitting the ignore button to send the call straight to voice mail. At least you are doing something so it helps with the compulsion. That's what I did last and it felt really good.
Author ATR Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 I know i feel really confused right now and i don't want to do the wrong thing (which is not being in contact with her) But cant i pick up exchange hi's. Then i say "What do you want?" or something along those lines. And if she replys and it's nothing good and by that i mean nothing other than "I wan't to get back together" - which i'm not sure i want... or do i?!?!! Lol I know i shouldn't but i am so curious!!!
openbook08 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 so what if she says : "we're movin in together" "im engaged" "im pregnant" trust me, from someone who picked up the phone its not worth it. if she wants you back she'll make dam sure you know it. my ex told me this story how he was gonna write me an anon love letter & then ask me to meet him (bein anon) & hed be there waiting and tra la la la INSTEAD he just rang. and i answered. biggest mistake ever. as always & esp since the break up it was all soooo easy for him.
Author ATR Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 so what if she says : "we're movin in together" "im engaged" "im pregnant" trust me, from someone who picked up the phone its not worth it. if she wants you back she'll make dam sure you know it. my ex told me this story how he was gonna write me an anon love letter & then ask me to meet him (bein anon) & hed be there waiting and tra la la la INSTEAD he just rang. and i answered. biggest mistake ever. as always & esp since the break up it was all soooo easy for him. :/ ok i changed my voicemail to "It's adam, leave me a message and i'll try and get back to you" She can tell me through there... What did your ex say when he rang?
Author ATR Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 She contacted me... again! I can't believe it. Why wont she leave me alone now after 2months of NC? She left another crappy voicemail with her and her friend laughing at something that is screeching.
2sunny Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 she's just messing with you - and your head. can you block her number?
Author ATR Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 I don't know if i can. She just sent me a text. "Sorry i called. My phone was not locked i didn't mean to" I quickly deleted it... ARGH!
2sunny Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I don't know if i can. She just sent me a text. "Sorry i called. My phone was not locked i didn't mean to" I quickly deleted it... ARGH! perfect! now you know that her phone is accidentally dialing you... hmmmm either way - take your power back and send her a text that states that she delete your number from her contact list so this never happens again... if she "intends" to call you in the future - then you will know it's not her "accidentally" dialing you.
Author ATR Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 Too late... I don't know her exact number just the last few didgets. Anyway i'm not wasting 2months of NC to tell her that because i really don't want to talk to her anytime soon.
D-Lish Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Her phone isn't accidentally dialing you- that never happens, certainly not twice. She's playing games- trying to make contact by testing the waters to see if you'll call back or text back. Of all the contacts in her phone- her phone is accidentally dialing her ex...twice? Whatever. She needs to grow up. If she has something to say, she should just say it.
Author ATR Posted February 27, 2009 Author Posted February 27, 2009 I agree. It's a bit coincidental that it happens 2 times in one week after 2 months of NC. To be fair my name would probably be at the top of her contact list (Adam) but i think the above statement cancels out any doubt it was deliberate. And why does she still have my number even stored on there!? I won't contact her though.
D-Lish Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 I agree. It's a bit coincidental that it happens 2 times in one week after 2 months of NC. To be fair my name would probably be at the top of her contact list (Adam) but i think the above statement cancels out any doubt it was deliberate. And why does she still have my number even stored on there!? I won't contact her though. Doesn't matter- in order to get to my contact list I have to slide up my phone, press three buttons and then click on a contact...lol. How likely is it that such a thing happens by accident? I wouldn't contact her either. As I said- if she's got an ounce of maturity in her and she has something to say to you- she can call you and leave a proper message. Games, that what it is.
paperchase Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 heck, even if you are awake when she calls I wouldn't pick up. I'd make her leave a message or let me know her intentions. I've been really struggling to maintain NC and I am nowhere near the 2 month mark. Did NC for a few days at a time. The longest period has been 5 days. But my ex has been sending me text messages saying she wishes she could eat at a certain place tonight, that we used to have fun, that I looked nice when she last saw me, that she's driving by my place and just wanted to say hey...."hey". all sorts of crap. it's like she wants me to bite, she wants me to ask her out. and lord knows i want to but I got dumped and she needs to be more clear before i entertain getting hurt further. if your ex called you twice, she will likely ramp up her efforts. if it's important enough, she'll eventually leave a message stating her intentions. then you get to decide whether to break NC.
Author ATR Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 Doesn't matter- in order to get to my contact list I have to slide up my phone, press three buttons and then click on a contact...lol. How likely is it that such a thing happens by accident? I wouldn't contact her either. As I said- if she's got an ounce of maturity in her and she has something to say to you- she can call you and leave a proper message. Games, that what it is. So true. She just wants an ego boost, well she's not gonna get it! I can't help at laugh at how she must be thinking atm though. 2months ago i was begging her back, then NC. She wants me to give her self worth that her boyfriend she left me for doesn't look like he's doing lol
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