CrashLanded87 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Alright, well i've been talking to this girl for around a month and a half-ish... but i've known her for much longer. Well i kinda dug her after talking to her at the beginning of this month and a half, so i continued to talk to her, only to find out she had to move in 5 months... And not a minor move, From PA to FL... Well, i finally built up the courage to tell her that i like her (Friday afternoon)... and she completely shuts me down with a "I don't want a relationship before i move away, it would be too hard on me to have to deal with that".... but that night, when i dropped her off from dinner with us and some friends... we wound up talking outside of the car from like 12:00-3:15 just talking and whatever... and wound up getting a couple kisses outta it. Then tonight, we got into a texting discussion that wound up with me askin her why she talks to me (don't ask), and her response was "Because you're chill".... then followed by me saying "Oh do you kiss all the guys that you think are chill?"... This went on until she admitted she had a crush on me.... Then, i posed the question, "What do we do? Are we supposed to suppress our feelings and let the last 5 months pass by us, making us wonder what if?" and she said "Yeah, Kindaa =/" This conversation finished when i asked her "Well, I don't get it.... How can you say that you don't want to get in a relationship with someone because you will get hurt.... but you will suppress your feelings you have for someone... which is gonna hurt too.... I don't get it" So, i state to all of you, I don't get it. Help/Explanation?
cresentcrow44 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Alright, well i've been talking to this girl for around a month and a half-ish... but i've known her for much longer. Well i kinda dug her after talking to her at the beginning of this month and a half, so i continued to talk to her, only to find out she had to move in 5 months... And not a minor move, From PA to FL... Well, i finally built up the courage to tell her that i like her (Friday afternoon)... and she completely shuts me down with a "I don't want a relationship before i move away, it would be too hard on me to have to deal with that".... but that night, when i dropped her off from dinner with us and some friends... we wound up talking outside of the car from like 12:00-3:15 just talking and whatever... and wound up getting a couple kisses outta it. Then tonight, we got into a texting discussion that wound up with me askin her why she talks to me (don't ask), and her response was "Because you're chill".... then followed by me saying "Oh do you kiss all the guys that you think are chill?"... This went on until she admitted she had a crush on me.... Then, i posed the question, "What do we do? Are we supposed to suppress our feelings and let the last 5 months pass by us, making us wonder what if?" and she said "Yeah, Kindaa =/" This conversation finished when i asked her "Well, I don't get it.... How can you say that you don't want to get in a relationship with someone because you will get hurt.... but you will suppress your feelings you have for someone... which is gonna hurt too.... I don't get it" So, i state to all of you, I don't get it. Help/Explanation? It's allot easier to NOT know what you really are leaving behind. Being in denial is worse than lying to some one because your lying to yourself. Some people are really good at buying into the lie. That is what it sounds like she is doing. Fear of losing someone for whatever reason is crippling to some people. It seems easier to convince yourself that you don't want to start something you know you will be ending when you move. It's not fair, it's not right for either of you. Would you be willing to move to FL too if things did get going between you two relationship wise?
Author CrashLanded87 Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Well, it IS only 5 months.... And we are only 18 and 17.... It's not like we are 20-sometime and can just do that kinda stuff...
Author CrashLanded87 Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 UPDATE: Now she is acting like I'm the bad guy.... behind my back... And acting like everything is peachy in the texts, BUT she is still "busy" and cannot hang out Her brother was talking to her... (we are friends) and she said THAT kid, which emphasis on the "that" like I did something wrong... I'm confused beyond the word confused... still kinda stuck on this whole thing.... Help?
cresentcrow44 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 The age thing I missed. Im sorry. In that case you are limited to what you can do. Maybe you might want to consider hanging out with your friends (not the brother if he is making you fell bad) and try to keep busy. I know you may not believe me but it will get better. If this move is going to happen and the two of you aren't old enough to change it, you may have to let go of it anyway. I wish I had some words of wisdom here, but realaity just plain sucks sometimes.
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