jlr5175 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Last time I was here I was talking to a Senior girl who only liked me as a friend. I moved on from her and started talking to this girl who I believed to be a sophomore but ended up being a freshmen. Anyways, this girl is 15, Im 17, and I met her through a class I had last semester (high school) but we didnt talked until just before christmas break and over christmas break through January we just talked and flirted. Coming up on January 16th I asked her to go out with me but she said " She doesnt want to say yes because she doesnt want to do something stupid." Because she was talking to me and some other guy at the same time. So after going over to her house and to her church a few times with her and her family she decides to go with me. Her mom and step-dad(really her dad figure) both are saying they have a good feeling about me and want her to pick me( the mom is big in religion and said she prayed for God to pick the guy with the better heart and that about an hour after the prayer she got horrible feelings about the other guy ). Anyways, Breanna and I dated for 3 weeks solid and everything was going good until a Sunday came where she didnt feel good, I was tired and so I was letting her be and ever since that day she says it's just felt different. Anyways, today would've been our 1 month anniversary but a few days ago she told me she just needs to take a "break" and be single for awhile and that we could date again when she's ready. I told her I'd wait for her gladly because she seems like a good christian girl but I just dont know if I really should. I've always seemed to regret moving on. Anyways, yesterday I went to church with her and her family again because that's the only way I'd ever go to church really and the day was just weird because I was so used to looking at her and thinking "Wow Im with that beautiful girl." But now I'd look and say "I hope I dont lose her." Anyways, after church and eating out with family friends on the car ride back it was like puppy love hit. She'd look at me and smile ( I wouldnt look at her although I could feel she was looking at me). Then I'd look at her and smile. And when we got home she had to finish a project so we were working on the project the entire time up until I had to leave. I asked her if she wanted to go lay down and she said "cant got to do project" (these are exact words.) I replied "What if didnt have project?" She said " She doesnt want to be sending me mixed signals." (Confuses me and still am confused about it. Interpret for me?) Eventually my dad shows up at 8:45 and I go into her room and get my shoes on and she comes in after and walks over to her dresser. I just stare at her and grin and she'd look over at me and ask me why I was staring. I'd tell her it's hard not to walk over and tell you I love you and kiss you. She grinned and walked over to me and we hugged tight for a good bit and then we'd lock hands and just stare and do soft little chuckles every few seconds just gazing into each others eyes and I'd tell her I dont want to leave it's just so hard not to kiss her. But when I'd tell her I need to go and I'd turn to leave because I didnt want to super confuse her by kissing her she'd squeeze my hand and pulling me back. So we're just going this flirty pull and tug game and eventually she pulls me back and we both come together and both of us goes in for a kiss and we kissed atleast 2-3 times. Afterwards we stared into each others eyes again with the biggest grins on our faces and finally I left and on the car ride back I just felt so good but we're still not going back out. What should I take from the experience last night? I love this girl to death I just need you guys to share your answers and opinions on the questions I posted throughout the story and tell me what you think I should do. I know I should keep my mind open to other girls but I dont really like any other girls and I still got strong feelings for this one and I think she still feels the same to me. Here's a picture of us the first week we started dating I believe.
Author jlr5175 Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 Sorry that me and her are on the younger side of life. Age hasnt really seemed to be a problem in the relationship thus far until maybe the "She needs to be single for awhile to figure some things out." Otherwise, she's been pretty mature about things.
Alex_M Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Run like hell. Seriously run. You don't want to be on the roller coaster this girl is, not when you have school work to be doing. You say: " She doesnt want to say yes because she doesnt want to do something stupid." Because she was talking to me and some other guy at the same time. So after going over to her house and to her church a few times with her and her family she decides to go with me. ^ Why are you making excuses for her? If that's what she told you then why would you wait to be picked? Why should you have to be picked? She sounds confused as hell, which I suppose is fair enough we're all human, but she doesn't sound like relationship material yet, maybe once she's grown up. The experience you should take from the other night is that, she has no idea what she wants.
Author jlr5175 Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 Run like hell. Seriously run. You don't want to be on the roller coaster this girl is, not when you have school work to be doing. You say: " She doesnt want to say yes because she doesnt want to do something stupid." Because she was talking to me and some other guy at the same time. So after going over to her house and to her church a few times with her and her family she decides to go with me. ^ Why are you making excuses for her? If that's what she told you then why would you wait to be picked? Why should you have to be picked? She sounds confused as hell, which I suppose is fair enough we're all human, but she doesn't sound like relationship material yet, maybe once she's grown up. The experience you should take from the other night is that, she has no idea what she wants. You sure? Dedicated Christian girl aspiring to grow up and be an Evangelist. Probably wouldnt cheat on me. Think I should run from it? Im not disagreeing or putting down your opinion just wanting your 100% sure label.Also, I have all my school work under control. Alg 2, US History, Eng 3, and Football. Nothing hard and passing all my classes with good grades and fairly easy.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 um she's underage Um, they're both underage - what's your point? You didn't date at all before 18? You sure? Dedicated Christian girl aspiring to grow up and be an Evangelist. Probably wouldnt cheat on me. Think I should run from it? Im not disagreeing or putting down your opinion just wanting your 100% sure label.Also, I have all my school work under control. Alg 2, US History, Eng 3, and Football. Nothing hard and passing all my classes with good grades and fairly easy. It's not about worrying about her cheating on you. You should be worried about her hurting you with her indecisiveness. She IS confused, just as the poster you quoted stated. I'd give her space. By pushing yourself in, she never gets a chance to "miss you" and see what her life would be like without you. Step back from her. I wouldn't necessarily say "run." But definitely give her room.
Author jlr5175 Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 Um, they're both underage - what's your point? You didn't date at all before 18? It's not about worrying about her cheating on you. You should be worried about her hurting you with her indecisiveness. She IS confused, just as the poster you quoted stated. I'd give her space. By pushing yourself in, she never gets a chance to "miss you" and see what her life would be like without you. Step back from her. I wouldn't necessarily say "run." But definitely give her room. You have an Instant Messenger we could talk on? I'd like to be able to keep in contact with you if that's ok. Thanks for the opinion. I'll try that I just need a little bit more clarification if that's ok. My MSN: [email protected] My Yahoo: [email protected] my AIM: RomanPwnage
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