bluebird18 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I’ll keep things short and to the point, wall of text is bad. I’ve dated a guy (21, I’m 20) for almost two months, we see each other twice a week due to it’s a 40 minute drive for me, and he doesn’t have a vehicle. Not a problem for me at all. To start things off it is that he’s told me that he considers “us” just a step or hair below boyfriend-girlfriend. I can accept that as he is the first person that I have ever dated (sad I know) and it’s probably wise not to rush things or pretend that there is something there that isn’t. The part that I’m scratching my head about, is that he’s told co-workers and his family that I am his girlfriend. I’ve met his family and co-workers and he has met my family. And I do like this guy. So I guess what I’m asking for is, do I gently bring up the subject if he’s actually looking for a relationship or just friends with benefits (which I do not want)?
redant Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I think it would be ok to ask him what kind of relationship he is looking for and then you can decide if you really want to be with him too. Good luck!!
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 IME, guys do not tell friends and family that somebody is their GIRLFRIEND if all that woman is is a FWB. But really, sit down with him and ask him. If you're wanting to be BF/GF, tell him that you consider him as such. Maybe he made the comment he did because he was afraid you'd reject the GF title.
Author bluebird18 Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 Alright, thank you very much for the replies. They were really helpful, next time I see him I'll bring it up. This seems like it's something you do in person.
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