dannyisninja Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 hi everyone this is my 1st post i hope ican get some good advice So me and my Ex dated for about 3 years starting when i was about 18, im 22 now. we broke up a little more then a year ago. she had major anxiety and depression issues and apparently was just not happy with me, and went off to college. Ever since she has gone away she has become a new person, has new confidence and is exceptionally happy. Throughout the year of being separated we would encounter eachother through mutual friends and have a word or 2 over facebook chat but nothing personal or deep, just quick conversation.....this never helped me because eachtime i saw her i only realized more and more how much i do love her and miss her each and everyday. She talks to my best friend, and has told him im not her type, she says im the best guy for her but shes just not sexually attracted to me and thats why she broke up with me. Recently i started dating someone for about 3 weeks, things didnt work out too well buit we stayed good friends, and it turns out that this girl that i was dating was a old best friend of my EX. My ex caught notice of this over facebook, and even asked me how that was going over chat, and admitted to stalking my page and seeing pictures of us. I told her nothing happened but ever since then she and i have been talking more and more on facebook, and seeing eachother when she comes home from school every other weekend or so. Nothing happens, and she keeps it very dry and friendly...which is fine, i withold my emotions and dont let her know my feelings and just act like a good friend. Every now and then though when we can talk without others around, we get comfortable in conversation like the way we used to be, and shell compliment me and just give me a look that makes me feel that maybe just maybe she might want me back. But then my bestfriend just lets me know that its a one sided emotion and she doesnt see me that way anymore... i dunno why shes starting to talk to me again so much? and i really dont know how long i can go with bottling these feelings.. some say i should tell her to leave me alone completely but its very hard to go about doing something like that. what should i do?
eclipseIDE Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 hi everyone this is my 1st post i hope ican get some good advice So me and my Ex dated for about 3 years starting when i was about 18, im 22 now. we broke up a little more then a year ago. she had major anxiety and depression issues and apparently was just not happy with me, and went off to college. Ever since she has gone away she has become a new person, has new confidence and is exceptionally happy. Throughout the year of being separated we would encounter eachother through mutual friends and have a word or 2 over facebook chat but nothing personal or deep, just quick conversation.....this never helped me because eachtime i saw her i only realized more and more how much i do love her and miss her each and everyday. She talks to my best friend, and has told him im not her type, she says im the best guy for her but shes just not sexually attracted to me and thats why she broke up with me. Recently i started dating someone for about 3 weeks, things didnt work out too well buit we stayed good friends, and it turns out that this girl that i was dating was a old best friend of my EX. My ex caught notice of this over facebook, and even asked me how that was going over chat, and admitted to stalking my page and seeing pictures of us. I told her nothing happened but ever since then she and i have been talking more and more on facebook, and seeing eachother when she comes home from school every other weekend or so. Nothing happens, and she keeps it very dry and friendly...which is fine, i withold my emotions and dont let her know my feelings and just act like a good friend. Every now and then though when we can talk without others around, we get comfortable in conversation like the way we used to be, and shell compliment me and just give me a look that makes me feel that maybe just maybe she might want me back. But then my bestfriend just lets me know that its a one sided emotion and she doesnt see me that way anymore... i dunno why shes starting to talk to me again so much? and i really dont know how long i can go with bottling these feelings.. some say i should tell her to leave me alone completely but its very hard to go about doing something like that. what should i do? I dont want to bum you out but if shes telling your best friend youre not her type and shes not sexually attracted to you I would not try and read into things too much. Im not trying to burst your bubble either but thats a pretty damn direct. Your best bet would be to cut off contact with her because it sounds like you are holding on to hope that she'll come back to you.
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