yonex Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Hey I just wanted to know whats the best way to message this girl back thats been ignoring me. I asked her if she wanted to chill sometime but got no response for some time now. Some advice rather than let it go please.
prettybaby Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 We're going to need more details here. Your post is way too vague. How long have you known her? Have you taken her out on an actual date yet? If so, how many times and for how long? When exactly did you message her about "chilling some time" (nice wording, by the way ) and why don't you just call her instead of texting?
Lucky_One Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Whatever you do, do not go to her school (like you mentioned in your first thread). That is creepy. Man, sorry to tell you this, but she is not interested in you. I know you don't want to hear it, but it is the truth. Let it go. But since I gave you exactly what you did not want to hear, try this instead, since you are going to ignore the letting it go advice. Send her another message on the lines of "I really liked meeting you the other week, and hope we can hang out sometime. If you want to, let me know. If you would rather I let you alone, then just let me know that, too." Do NOT send that on her BF, unless you like all of her friends reading it and laughing at it publicly. And if she tells you that she is not interested, then let it go. Don't ask her why she doesn't want you - just accept that she doesn't.
BCCA Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Man, sorry to tell you this, but she is not interested in you. I know you don't want to hear it, but it is the truth. Let it go. This is kind of the same advice I gave you about 5 times in that other thread. Lucky_One is right, let it go. You sound young and somewhat new to the dating scene. If Im wrong, I apologize, but this is a pretty basic element of dating. When you contact someone, and they dont respond, they're not interested. It has nothing to do with 'messaging her back', its HER thats not messaging YOU back. I asked her if she wanted to chill sometime but got no response for some time now. Let me ask you something, if a girl you were interested in asked you to hang out sometime, would you ignore her? NO, neither would anyone else. THIS girl in particular is NOT interested, as is painfully obvious to everyone but you. I'm not trying to be rude here man, but how much clearer does it get than not even responding to you? Some advice rather than let it go please. What do you want anyone to say? If I could make girls interested in other people, I would be a rich man, and probably not single myself. Take this as a lesson: girls will flirt, give you their numbers and act like theyre interested even if theyre not. And if they are at some point, they change their mind in an instant all the time. This stuff is just part of dating, sometimes it works out, most of the time it doesnt. Just dont beat yourself up over this anymore.
Author yonex Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Trust me if I could "let it go" like you guys command I wouldn't be hear now would I. Its harder than said..a lot harder. Yea that doesent sound to bad Lucky I was thinking something along the same lines of that, but a bit different. By the way Prettybaby I met her when I was on vacation and she said we should chill/hangout sometime.
gopher Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Chilling or hanging out sometime is sooo casual that I would barely take it for interest. You sound obsessed with her and women can smell that a mile away...Find someway, anyway to get over her....talk to a counselor if need be, but don't continue to harass her, because as someone else said, she just isn't interested.
Geishawhelk Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 yonex: Find out where she lives. Buy a huge bunch of flowers, a box of chocolates and a beautiful card. Find a sonnet by Shakespeare and write it into the card. Spray your car white, and in gold letters, paint all over it "Yonex and <girl's name> for ever!" Hire a local string quartet, and serenade her on her front lawn, at the next full moon. Wear a white tuxedo, and red bow tie, of course...... Or - better still...... Let it go. As the main concensus seems to be option 2 - maybe you should pay attention.
BCCA Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Chilling or hanging out sometime is sooo casual that I would barely take it for interest. Its also a get out of jail free card. You put someone off for right now, knowing that all it takes is ignoring a couple calls/emails later. SO many people say the same thing to blow someone off without looking bad at the moment. I know its not easy. Ive had a girl chat me up, give me her # and insist we should go out sometime, and then she didnt answer or return my call. Doesnt make sense, and its hard to understand it, but at the end of the day, she just wasnt interested, and I had to move on. I know this sucks and you just want some answers, but youre just not going to get them from her. Do yourself a favor, dont let this girl and situation drag you down any more. Let it suck, but get over it as best you can.
ruggy Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 yonex: Find out where she lives. Buy a huge bunch of flowers, a box of chocolates and a beautiful card. Find a sonnet by Shakespeare and write it into the card. Spray your car white, and in gold letters, paint all over it "Yonex and <girl's name> for ever!" Hire a local string quartet, and serenade her on her front lawn, at the next full moon. Wear a white tuxedo, and red bow tie, of course...... Or - better still...... Let it go. As the main concensus seems to be option 2 - maybe you should pay attention. Only do option 1 if you want a restraining order placed on you though.
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