redant Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Hope I'm not abusing this board by continuing to ask similar questions. I've been seeing someone for 3 months very regularly things are good except for a couple of things. I think alot of the futre don't feel I have as much time. He's in transition work wise he was a realtor. Yesterday he said two things that got me Leary one was when walking thru a neighborhood of big homes he mentions how he'd want a small home makes me wonder if he wants kids or to get married one day. Also as far as work he is going to talk with someone today about a job which may require him to travel abroad for a month. This may not pan out but. What I am wondering is would it be ok to date others in case me and him are not on the same road?? Any help is appreciated. When say date I'm saying get to know. If so should I talk to him openly about it?
Author redant Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Also he was with his last gf 1 1/2 yrs and told me he did not love her he was having fun. When she wanted marriage he let her go. He has said that he feels diff with me but there is no way of knowing for sure.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 How about you talk to him about it? There's no way for any of us to know what's going on in his head, or the things he sees for himself and a woman in his future. At least if you can get that info you can decide if you want to continue pursuing something with him. If he does decide to do the travel thing, yes - I would talk to him about dating other guys. You sound kind of lukewarm about the guy (I don't remember your other posts), maybe you should have the "date other people" conversation regardless of his career plans.
Author redant Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 I do sound lukewarm but I'm investing time and I'm starting to get more emotionally attached. Maybe I will tell him that the comment about his last gf is in the back of my mind and him leaving for a month would make me second guess the relationship. I wasn't sure if I needed to bring it up or leave it alone. Thanks.
Author redant Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Now I'm having trouble concentrating and feeling over emotional like I am going to screw everything up! I wish I would have said something or talked to him instead of holding it all in. I have not felt this emotional before and I don't want to scare him away!
Author redant Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 I'm better now thanks for listening
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