Mixed signals. What does he want/mean?

[jadelil25]

Is it me or is he just not that in to me?

 

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two months now and I feel like im getting mixed signals.

 

When we are together he says that he likes me, cares about me a lot, that I make him happy and that he wants to be there for me and make me happy.

 

When we are apart, he seems different, does not talk a lot and seems distant.

 

I know he is working a lot and having a hard time. I understand that and message him daily to try and cheer him up and let him know that im thinking about him. I do like to get a message back and understand if he does not reply.

 

We had arranged to see each other tonight, I messaged him a little while after he replied and said is it still ok to see you tomorrow.

 

He replied saying you can come round if you want and we can finish watching the movie. - what does he mean by this?

 

Im just confused, when we are together he seems like he enjoys being with me and wants to see me and then when we are apart it/he seems different.

 

Is it my fault for saying in the beggining that im a great beliver in space, time apart to do your own thing. I belive that you should still friends but I do like communicating at least once every day.

 

I only see him once or twice a week. I really dont feel this is enough, is it ok to talk to him about this? I would just like to see him one more day so it works out as about 3 times a week? Or would that be too much?

 

Am I just over analyzing/bewing paranoid? Or is he just not that in to me?

 

I really would appreciate your help on this.

[bayouboi]

Is it me or is he just not that in to me?

 

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two months now and I feel like im getting mixed signals.

 

When we are together he says that he likes me, cares about me a lot, that I make him happy and that he wants to be there for me and make me happy.

 

When we are apart, he seems different, does not talk a lot and seems distant.

 

I know he is working a lot and having a hard time. I understand that and message him daily to try and cheer him up and let him know that im thinking about him. I do like to get a message back and understand if he does not reply.

 

We had arranged to see each other tonight, I messaged him a little while after he replied and said is it still ok to see you tomorrow.

 

He replied saying you can come round if you want and we can finish watching the movie. - what does he mean by this?

 

Im just confused, when we are together he seems like he enjoys being with me and wants to see me and then when we are apart it/he seems different.

 

Is it my fault for saying in the beggining that im a great beliver in space, time apart to do your own thing. I belive that you should still friends but I do like communicating at least once every day.

 

I only see him once or twice a week. I really dont feel this is enough, is it ok to talk to him about this? I would just like to see him one more day so it works out as about 3 times a week? Or would that be too much?

 

Am I just over analyzing/bewing paranoid? Or is he just not that in to me?

 

I really would appreciate your help on this.

 

I'm definitely no expert, but I feel the same way. I would think if two people really enjoyed each other they would want to see each other more than just once a week.

 

I'm having the same problems with my current GF. I feel like I'm into her way more than she's into me. We both have tough work schedules so it's difficult, but it's also very frustrating and exhausting not getting to see her more than just once a week.

[prettybaby]

I honestly think you're overthinking and being a little needy. It has only been 2 months ... that's only 8 weeks. My new man and I see each other twice a week, just like you and your guy.

 

Sure, I'd like to see him every day, it would be nice. But just like you, we only started dating about 2 months ago, and it's still pretty new. It's nice to take things gradually and slowly move things up a notch. As far as communication goes: we leave each other alone a few days a week. No phone call, or text or e-mail. We generally communicate a day or two before our next date / sleepover to catch up with each other's news and set up a time to meet up.

 

I personally like it that way. We've both been single for a while (previous to dating each other, obviously), and I feel like we'd both feel a bit overwhelmed if contact happened on a daily basis right now. It's nice that we give each other space and slowly move into this relationship. We're giving each other time to feel things out, it's sweet and headache free.

 

If I were your boyfriend and was dealing with a stressful job, your daily texting would actually irritate me a bit.

 

But then again, I'm not your boyfriend, and I don't know either of you. I'm just speaking from my personal point of view, with me and my boyfriend's personality. You guys may be totally different, but I figured my perspective might be interesting to you since we've been dating for as long as you two and see each other the same amount of times a week.

 

I also wanted to add: nothing you have described points to the fact that he may be annoyed by you. In fact, from the info you've given, he sounds pretty laid back and interested. Could it be that you're the only one stressing out about this? Or has he given any reasons to worry that you haven't told us yet? The only issue that reflects from your post is that you want to communicate daily and see him half the week, while he seems cool with the actual pace of things.

[northstar1]

Is it me or is he just not that in to me?

 

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two months now and I feel like im getting mixed signals.

 

When we are together he says that he likes me, cares about me a lot, that I make him happy and that he wants to be there for me and make me happy.

 

When we are apart, he seems different, does not talk a lot and seems distant.

 

I know he is working a lot and having a hard time. I understand that and message him daily to try and cheer him up and let him know that im thinking about him. I do like to get a message back and understand if he does not reply.

 

We had arranged to see each other tonight, I messaged him a little while after he replied and said is it still ok to see you tomorrow.

 

He replied saying you can come round if you want and we can finish watching the movie. - what does he mean by this?

 

Im just confused, when we are together he seems like he enjoys being with me and wants to see me and then when we are apart it/he seems different.

 

Is it my fault for saying in the beggining that im a great beliver in space, time apart to do your own thing. I belive that you should still friends but I do like communicating at least once every day.

 

I only see him once or twice a week. I really dont feel this is enough, is it ok to talk to him about this? I would just like to see him one more day so it works out as about 3 times a week? Or would that be too much?

 

Am I just over analyzing/bewing paranoid? Or is he just not that in to me?

 

I really would appreciate your help on this.

 

Two months is still early on and so you are finding a comfortable pattern/routine here.

Have you actually had the "relationship' conversation? Maybe he's under a belief that things are still casual and and doesn't feel a need to have daily contact etc?